Building Caring Relationships

“Inferiority feelings rule the mental life and can be clearly recognized in the sense of deficiency and dissatisfaction, and in uninterrupted struggles both within individuals and humanity.”    

Alfred Adler, Psychiatrist, 1870-1937

Think of people you know and admire. What qualities do you like most about them? How do they make you feel? Chances are they banish inferiority feelings in others and cause a positive experience instead. They have social interest – a well developed concern for how their behavior affects others, and how to use that behavior in service for the good of all.

Parents report they want their children to grow up to be well-adjusted, productive, good citizens who know how to give and receive love in caring relationships. In order for this to occur, children need to learn to be socially interested and aware of how their behavior impacts others.

Social interest is a capacity inherent in all people but must be developed and trained. It comes when a child has an inner sense of connectedness and continuity with others and with all of life. It is a highly developed, natural empathy for all and is lacking more often than we realize because most parenting practices have dampened social interest.

A counterproductive parenting approach, the use of consequences, generally refers to something bad being done to the child as a result of their negative behavior.  Instead we advocate children become sensitive to consequences they cause others.  Development of social interest, personal responsibility, and leadership even in the smallest of children, is a key concept in all LifeWork Systems parenting programs.