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Complicity

Complicity

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people, but the silence over that by the good people.” Martin Luther King, Jr.   Someone cautioned me recently that I would offend people because I brought...
A Fool with a Tool is Still a Fool

A Fool with a Tool is Still a Fool

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A fool with a tool is still a fool.” Grady Booch, American Software Engineer   In any situation involving significant transformation, the most important change process is the one within, one’s mindset. In my 12-month culture...
Your Greatest Barrier Is Your Pain Tolerance

Your Greatest Barrier Is Your Pain Tolerance

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“…Sometimes I suspect that what had really happened was that we became more resigned, more cynical, raised our pain thresholds as we lowered our expectations. All in all, we settled for less.” Emma Donoghue, Playwright   It’s...
Seize Opportunities Within the Great Resignation

Seize Opportunities Within the Great Resignation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The true test of character is to live win-win even when promoted to positions where win-lose is possible.” ― Orrin Woodward   If you search google, you’ll find The Great Resignation is defined as an informal name for the...
Stop Protecting Your Reputation

Stop Protecting Your Reputation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The strongest oak tree of the forest is not the one protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It’s the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and...
Is Your Free Will Actually Free?

Is Your Free Will Actually Free?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Free will, though it makes evil possible, is also the only thing that makes possible any love or goodness or joy worth having.” ~ C.S. Lewis Many people are aware of choices they make. What they don’t realize is that unconscious...
Are Your People High Performing? 

Are Your People High Performing? 

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence wins championships.” Michael Jordan “You can motivate by fear, and you can motivate by reward. But both those methods are only temporary. The only lasting thing is self-motivation.”...
Mentoring to Develop Your People

Mentoring to Develop Your People

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin “Your most important task as a leader is to teach people how to think and ask the right questions so that the world doesn’t go to hell if you take a day off”  Jeffrey Pfeffer   In our culture transformation model, a key...
Do You Have a Powerful, Positive and Helpful Ego?

Do You Have a Powerful, Positive and Helpful Ego?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If being an egomaniac means I believe in what I do and, in my art or music, then in that respect you can call me that… I believe in what I do, and I’ll say it.” John Lennon   The notion of ego is often used to describe the...
S.L.A.M. Say Less; Ask More

S.L.A.M. Say Less; Ask More

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.” Edith Wharton, a novelist Many people confuse leading people with managing people and caring for or loving people with worry or concern for...
Are My People Responsible Even When No One’s Watching?

Are My People Responsible Even When No One’s Watching?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching.” S. Lewis   For years, I have been spitting in the soup of leaders using control models whether in homes, schools, community organizations or businesses....
Why Ditch Annual Performance Appraisals

Why Ditch Annual Performance Appraisals

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You can motivate by fear, and you can motivate by reward. But both of those methods are only temporary. The only lasting thing is self-motivation.” Homer Rice, a former American football player, coach, and college athletics...
Power Distance Index – Managing Relationships with Authority

Power Distance Index – Managing Relationships with Authority

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Some societies and religions have a tendency to expand the moral circle and to consider all humans as belonging to a single moral community.” Geert Hofstede, Social Psychologist I was re-reading Malcolm Gladwell’s book Outliers and...
Episode 4 – How Can I Motivate Them?

Episode 4 – How Can I Motivate Them?

In my work with clients, I often hear people say, “how can I motivate this person to do what they’re supposed to? They’re lazy. They’re unmotivated.” The truth is people are always motivated. They’re just not always motivated to do what YOU want them to do.
In this episode, Judy and her guest, Tara Gregor, founder and CEO of Breakwell, a resource hub for holistic wellness discuss a very different and highly effective approach to motivation. Old models and external motivation tactics simply don’t work anymore. So, if those don’t work, what does? Tune in to this podcast to learn a new approach.

Task Ownership

Task Ownership

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The educator must believe in the potential power of his pupil, and he must employ all his art in seeking to bring his pupil to experience this power.” Alfred Adler, Psychologist Task ownership Task ownership is when a person is...
The Key to Employee Engagement

The Key to Employee Engagement

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”                         ~Viktor Frankl In order to understand employee engagement,...
A Time To Rise Up!

A Time To Rise Up!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“She was fire and life. She was awe and starlight.” ― Nadine Brandes, Author, Fawkes “O my Courageous Sister! You have to become the beacon of hope for all women around you and then for the whole society.” ― Abhijit Naskar,...
Episode 1- Spitting in the Soup

Episode 1- Spitting in the Soup

This topic is designed to challenge basic norms we’ve held sacrosanct for centuries. These are the four control models described in this episode as widely promoted means to cultivate good citizenship in homes, schools, churches, and workplaces; really everywhere. This episode helps listeners to recognize these as the impediments they are and that they need to be dismantled and replaced with new models.

Episode 1- Spitting in the Soup

Spitting In The Soup

People are always motivated. It’s not anyone’s job to motivate others. People can control themselves. They can do what’s right and don’t need approval or shaming to do so. They don’t need to be enabled. The problem is we don’t have faith in people nor do we know how to effectively teach them to pick up responsibility for things that are theirs to own. When we learn to do so, others can become accountable, caring and fully engaged, making a positive difference in your business.

The Path (Back) to Being Authentic

The Path (Back) to Being Authentic

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. Accept the place the divine providence has found for you, the society of your contemporaries, the connection of events. Great men have always done so, and confided themselves...
Honesty is the Best Policy – or is it?

Honesty is the Best Policy – or is it?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Failure of an employee to speak up in a crucial moment cannot be seen. This is true whether that employee is on the front lines of customer service or sitting next to you in the executive board room. And because not offering an...
Managing Frustrations in a Frustrating World

Managing Frustrations in a Frustrating World

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Face challenges, fear, and frustration by seeking out knowledge and opportunities for growth.”  ~ Fanny Mairena Today’s leaders must be powerful without entering into the fray caused by frustration. They must refrain...
Upgrading Our Human Systems

Upgrading Our Human Systems

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The time is now. Because in this time of change, the world needs every one of us to stand in our power, reach our highest potential, share our gifts and be the best that we can be. Humanity can no longer accept antiquated...
Mentoring: Your Competitive Advantage

Mentoring: Your Competitive Advantage

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.” Steven Spielberg When we work in organizational culture change, our clients initially focus on...
Breaking the Addiction to Approval

Breaking the Addiction to Approval

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”...
Teal Organizations

Teal Organizations

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe Teal paradigm refers to the next stage in the evolution of human consciousness.[1] When applied to organizations, this paradigm views the organization as an independent force with its own purpose, and not merely as a vehicle for...
Kinds Of People You Need

Kinds Of People You Need

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.” Harry Truman No matter what your role, you have an important mission and vision to...
Meeting Our Needs and Those Of Others

Meeting Our Needs and Those Of Others

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOur Basic Social Needs: Belonging and Significance Beyond basic survival, we all want to experience a healthy sense of belonging and significance through our four core social needs: to  feel powerful, lovable, connected and...
The Courage To Be Disliked

The Courage To Be Disliked

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“When we least expect it, life sets up a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will...
5 Top Challenges In Today’s Workplace

5 Top Challenges In Today’s Workplace

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Culture lives in the collective hearts and habits of people and their shared perception of how things are to be done. The #1 advantage for the ‘organization of tomorrow’ is investing in a Human System that creates a NEW KIND OF...
Advantages of Cross-Functional Teamwork

Advantages of Cross-Functional Teamwork

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOne of the biggest challenges leaders face, according to Deloitte, is organizational design. Specifically, redesigning their structures through teams. The line and block hierarchy found on a company org chart isn’t how work actually...
If Not Punishment, Then What?

If Not Punishment, Then What?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinToxic Shame is a neurotic, irrational feeling of worthlessness, humiliation, self-loathing and paralyzing feeling that has been inflicted onto an individual through repeated, traumatic experiences often, but not always, rooted in...
Episode 4 – How Can I Motivate Them?

How Can I Motivate Them?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”      John Quincy Adams In my work with clients, I often hear, “How can I motivate this person to do what they’re...
Intention Equals Results

Intention Equals Results

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin “The truth is incontrovertible. Panic may resent it, ignorance may deride it, malice may distort it, but there it is.” Winston Churchill Intention is a function of our minds and is a causal activity. In other words, whether we use...
Authentic Power

Authentic Power

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinDo you trust people to want and choose to be caring, and accountable without coercion? Do you make it your mission to develop their initiative or to control them instead? Consider today’s research quoted in an article entitled The...
Be THE Decisive Element

Be THE Decisive Element

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or...
Commit to Personal Responsibility

Commit to Personal Responsibility

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid...
Disengagement is Betrayal

Disengagement is Betrayal

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,...
Accountability IS Happiness!

Accountability IS Happiness!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“While it doesn’t sound too exciting, I believe happiness is being 100% accountable for your life.”   Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love I couldn’t agree more. Being accountable is taking 100%...
Like PB&J, Freedom & Responsibility

Like PB&J, Freedom & Responsibility

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”   Sigmund Freud, Civilization and Its Discontents What would our world be like, (including our...
Become the Best Version of YOU!

Become the Best Version of YOU!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The actual processes of individuation—the conscious coming-to-terms with one’s own inner center (psychic nucleus) or Self—generally begins with a wounding of the personality and the suffering that accompanies it. This...
Inadequacy: I Can’t, So Leave Me Alone!

Inadequacy: I Can’t, So Leave Me Alone!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” Henry Ford Ever know a person who feels like the human version of Eeyore? They assume “I can’t” and refuse to try. Their behavior communicates, “Just leave me...
Be Your Most Imaginal Self!

Be Your Most Imaginal Self!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.” Proverb Consider the following ellipses from the books “Butterfly,” by Norie Huddle, and “Waking the Global Heart,” by Anodea Judith. Caterpillars are...
Get More Selfish!

Get More Selfish!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Whether you believe it a moral imperative or enlightened self-interest, securing the conditions that will lead to a healthy, prosperous future for everyone is a goal I believe we all share.” Bill Gates We are often...
Your Powerful Agreements

Your Powerful Agreements

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive –to be alive and express what we really are. Just being our self is the biggest fear of humans.” Don Miguel Ruiz  “There is no...
Put YOUR Stake in the Ground

Put YOUR Stake in the Ground

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Every champion was once a contender that refused to give up.” Rocky Balboa Anything worth doing is worth doing completely. Yet, often we hold back commitment waiting for reassurance and commitment from others first. Doing this is...
Be Unconsciously Competent

Be Unconsciously Competent

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” “We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us”. Joseph Campbell, Author Often, we are afraid to make...
I Can’t be a Good Boss & a Friend too

I Can’t be a Good Boss & a Friend too

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“To power up the whole system involves learning to bring the heart and mind into a creative joint venture. Heart intelligence supplies balanced strength and allows more of one’s individual spirit — the passionate...
Episode 5 – The Power of Mentoring

The Power of Mentoring

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.” ― Plato “The mind is not a...
Does The World Need More of This?

Does The World Need More of This?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“There is no neutral. We are either part of the problem or part of the solution.”    Marianne Williamson A Crucial Question As we head into every new year, a really great question to consider as we think, speak and...
The Courage To Change & Grow

The Courage To Change & Grow

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“An unexamined life is not worth living” Plato Here it is another New Year’s Day! It’s a time to reflect, re-set, and re-create. We consider our health, wealth, relationships, spirituality, and our purpose and...
When We Fear Consequences

When We Fear Consequences

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Don’t only practice your art, but force your way into its secrets, for it and knowledge, can raise men to the Divine.”Ludwig vonBeethoven One of the things I notice about many people (including myself) is that we often become...
Cover Story: Me Too: Unwrapping Abuse Systems

Cover Story: Me Too: Unwrapping Abuse Systems

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“An insight the size of a mustard seed is powerful enough to bring down a mountain-sized illusion that may be holding our lives together. Truth strikes without mercy. We fear our intuitions because we fear the transformational...
5 Articles That Reveal The Real Value of Employee Engagement

5 Articles That Reveal The Real Value of Employee Engagement

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The challenge is to see engagement not as a one-off activity, but as a holistic view of the employee experience… That means everything from the first moment the person applies for a job all the way through to managing work...
Perceptual Blindness

Perceptual Blindness

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin “Change blindness in the world of facts and knowledge is a problem. Sometimes we are exposed to new facts and simply filter them out. But more often we have to go out of our way in order to learn something new. Our blindness is not...
Why Are We So Stuck?

Why Are We So Stuck?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“One of the true tests of leadership is the ability to recognize a problem before it becomes an emergency.”   Arnold H. Glasgow This is a challenging time to be American. On the one hand people are talking about...
Choose You

Choose You

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Most men (and women) lead lives of quiet desperation and die with their song still inside them.” Henry David Thoreau It’s difficult for many people, especially women, to choose themselves in their own lives and then they lead lives...
Who Says You’re Not Like The Dalai Lama!?

Who Says You’re Not Like The Dalai Lama!?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate… Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”Nelson Mandela How is it that we often forget our true glorious nature and cling to the weakest view of our self instead? It...
Life Is Calling YOU!

Life Is Calling YOU!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You are braver than you think, more talented than you realize.” R. Bennett I watched a documentary on the pyramids recently and learned something that made me hopeful while confirming what I have already felt intuitively. Despite...
Teal is the Trend. What Color is Your Organization?

Teal is the Trend. What Color is Your Organization?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” Margaret Mead, American cultural anthropologist “Management is, above all, a practice where...
“I’m Sorry You Feel That Way” – “I Never Intended That…”

“I’m Sorry You Feel That Way” – “I Never Intended That…”

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you own the story you get to write the ending.” Brene Brown   “We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.” George Bernard Shaw Why It’s Never Helpful to Say, “I’m Sorry...
Activate All Super Powers

Activate All Super Powers

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I AM a sacred cocoon, a place to dismantle what no longer serves, and allow new, bright, and free possibilities to emerge. I am safe, supported and healed into the best version of myself and available to provide the same for...
Get Your People To Bring Their A-Game

Get Your People To Bring Their A-Game

“Freeing yourself was one thing; claiming ownership of that freed self was another.”
– Toni Morrison, Nobel Prize- and Pulitzer Prize-winning novelist

FEATURE STORY on Culture Change

FEATURE STORY on Culture Change

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThis featured article is published in the St. Louis Small Business Monthly, March 2016 Share...
Walking the Talk

Walking the Talk

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“It is difficult to inspire others to accomplish what you haven’t been willing to try.”     Confucius “It is my responsibility to do what inspires me, in order to inspire others to do what inspires them.”      Tsepiso...
Don’t Hold Up Progress

Don’t Hold Up Progress

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Success on any major scale requires you to accept responsibility . . .  In the final analysis, the one quality that all successful people have is the ability to take on responsibility.” Michael Korda...
Do You Have Faith In People’s Goodness?

Do You Have Faith In People’s Goodness?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. Always pray to have eyes that see the best in people, and a heart that forgives the worst.” Martin Luther King, Jr   You may be surprised to...
Teach them to Fish

Teach them to Fish

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Maimonides The Dilemma Many systems and strategies of the past are no longer effective. Schools were originally designed to...
Work/Life Balance

Work/Life Balance

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhat helps anyone, anytime, with almost anything? Figure out what you want and learn how to ask for it! From the movie, “How Do You Know?” Watch and learn how you would do this more often. Click on the image below...
It Feels Real: Am I Being Punished?

It Feels Real: Am I Being Punished?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Children are great observers but poor interpreters.” Rudolf Dreikurs, parent educator, author and psychologist Why this feeling?When we were children, one of the ways we could create the illusion life was not careening out of...
Help People Conceive, Believe, & Achieve

Help People Conceive, Believe, & Achieve

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe difference between an idea and a commitment is the difference between knowing about a new tool and using it in your everyday life as a new habit and way of operating. The greatest challenge many of my clients encounter as they...
Are You Personally Responsible?

Are You Personally Responsible?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinYou may wonder: what criterion determines if a person is personally responsible? Personal responsibility IS synonymous with authentic freedom, empowerment, creativity, accountability, and alignment. It always brings about positive...
Power Over? Power Under? Power Within!

Power Over? Power Under? Power Within!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.” Nelson Mandela   I was born and raised in Ferguson, MO and recent events there have...
What do you Intend to Cause?

What do you Intend to Cause?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” Albert Einstein   When I work with businesses, organizations, families, and individuals, people are usually confused by this question: What do you...
Could Your Head Be Buried In The Sand?

Could Your Head Be Buried In The Sand?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I can calculate the motion of heavenly bodies, but not the madness of people.” Isaac Newton     You’ve seen it happen to others and you may have already experienced it yourself: shocking setbacks in running your business....
What You Protect, You Make Weak – Empowering vs. Enabling

What You Protect, You Make Weak – Empowering vs. Enabling

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRule of Empowerment: “Don’t do for others anything they can do for themselves.  Don’t say anything they already know.” Rudolf Dreikurs In order for people to live to highest potential, each has four core needs; to feel...
You’re Not The Boss of Me!

You’re Not The Boss of Me!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Trying to win a power struggle is like trying to win a nuclear war. You may achieve your goal, but not without catastrophic casualties on both sides.” Jamie Raser, Author of Raising Children You Can Live With   A man I know...
Part 2 of 5 – Human Systems – What Gets Measured Improves

Part 2 of 5 – Human Systems – What Gets Measured Improves

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I have been struck again and again by how important measurement is to improving the human condition.” Bill Gates What Gets Measured Improves Motivated, successful, and contributing. That’s what you need your staff to be...
Part 4 of 5 – Implementation

Part 4 of 5 – Implementation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“What you want is within your reach.  You can flip a switch and your life can become what you want it to be.” Sam Carpenter, Author, Work the System Cultivating Leaders Problems exist in the gap between what you desire to be...
Part 5 of 5 – Maintenance

Part 5 of 5 – Maintenance

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.”- Abraham Lincoln My Competitive Advantage Each month, I have provided information on five processes needed to ensure your greatest...
Get Along. Get Inspired. Get Results.

Get Along. Get Inspired. Get Results.

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Before one can hit a grand-slam home run, it first requires singles, doubles or triples.” Unknown   Every business owner sets up their organization with high hopes and a dream of making a difference, yet all the great ideas...
Extraordinary People & Results

Extraordinary People & Results

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“It is not the ultimate achievement that makes you extraordinary; it is what you become on the way to that achievement that people celebrate. Saidi Mdala, Author of Know What Matters Are you experiencing poor relationships? Seeing...
Redirecting Negative Behavior

Redirecting Negative Behavior

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A misbehaving person is a discouraged person.” ~ Dr. Rudulf Dreikurs Are you challenged by poor behavior? Could it be discouragement despite appearances? What thoughts do you think, words do you say to and about them, and what...
Holding Others Accountable

Holding Others Accountable

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The committed heart finds a way. The uncommitted heart finds an excuse.” Unknown Your daughter or son agrees to complete a chore and you arrive home only to find it incomplete once again. You ask one of your employees to contribute...
Your Blueprint for Constructing Success

Your Blueprint for Constructing Success

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”                                                ...
Being Trustworthy Isn’t Building Trust

Being Trustworthy Isn’t Building Trust

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” Stephen R. Covey I teach and consult on the importance of the following eight...
From Compliance to Commitment

From Compliance to Commitment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You get the best efforts from others not by lighting a fire beneath them, but by building a fire within.”   -Bob Nelson Compliance People used to think of the workplace in terms of the activities and behaviors that...
Cover Story on Culture Change

Cover Story on Culture Change

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Culture does not change because we desire to change it. Culture changes when the organization is transformed – the culture reflects the realities of people working together everyday.” Frances Hesselbein A Focus on Shifting Company...
1. Straightforwardness: Dare I Tell it Like It Is?

1. Straightforwardness: Dare I Tell it Like It Is?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe most important relationship to manage is with our self. A trustworthy person practices honesty, straightforwardness, respect, receptivity, recognition, keeping commitments, seeking excellence and disclosure, the eight values...
2. Honesty: Don’t Play Others, Don’t Play You!

2. Honesty: Don’t Play Others, Don’t Play You!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“When you face a choice between being polite and being honest, err on the side of the truth. It’s better to be disliked but respected than to be liked and disrespected. In the long run, the people we trust the most are those who...
8. Seeking Excellence: Are You All You Can Be?

8. Seeking Excellence: Are You All You Can Be?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives – choice, not chance, determines your destiny.”     ...
7. Follow-Through: Do I Mean What I Say?

7. Follow-Through: Do I Mean What I Say?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Intent without action will leave every word that I use to describe my intent as empty and best never said.”  Craig D. Lounsbrough   Imagine you ask someone to do something and they agree. You count on it, and then come to find...
Are You Cultivating Excellence?

Are You Cultivating Excellence?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinNational research shows 29% of employees are engaged in excellence. They’re eager, willing, and personally responsible. The remaining 71% are mediocre or actively disengaged… Ghandi, Helen Keller, DaVinci, or simply a...
Reasons We Gossip & What To Do Instead

Reasons We Gossip & What To Do Instead

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.” Steve Maraboli, Author, Life, the...
Kinds of People I Need

Kinds of People I Need

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.”  Harry Truman An important question to consider is, “What kinds of people do I need and...
The Dysfunctional Bunch

The Dysfunctional Bunch

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Creating chaos provides excitement for some people, especially those who are uneasy with silence, those who distract themselves from their own problems by focusing outward, those who feel empty inside and need to fill themselves up...
Longing for the Good Old Days?

Longing for the Good Old Days?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The good old days were never that good, believe me. The good new days are today, and better days are coming tomorrow. Our greatest songs are still unsung.”     Hubert Humphrey “Why can’t we go back to the good old days when people...
How to Emotionally Handle Terminations

How to Emotionally Handle Terminations

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinby Julia Paulus (referencing Judy Ryan and LifeWork Systems) SBM, March 2010 Getting fired is obviously difficult for an employee. But firing someone is also hard for owners and managers – probably one of the hardest things they...
How do I Make All-Stars?

How do I Make All-Stars?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinby Julia Paulus (referencing Judy Ryan and LifeWork Systems) SBM, March 2010 My biggest all-star employee just left the company to work for a competitor.  He was efficient, virtually mistake-free and energetic.  When he...
What Does it Take to Build Trust?

What Does it Take to Build Trust?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinI’ve delivered many team building workshops to corporations, schools and parent groups in which I focus on the behaviors that build trust and those that don’t. One behavior destructive to any team is gossip and part of my program is...
Connect to Your Light!

Connect to Your Light!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRecently, I took a self-imposed retreat to discover how to more fully operate from freedom, courage and joy. As women, unless the light of love is flowing fully in our family or in our intimate relationships, we’re not fulfilled...
Keep The End In Mind

Keep The End In Mind

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinIn any situation in which you are uncertain, the first thing to consider very simply is, “What do I want to come of this? What is it for?” The clarification of the goal belongs at the beginning of any course of action because the...
The Biggest Loser

The Biggest Loser

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe show “The Biggest Loser” is very popular. In it we see men and women who are determined to make monumental changes and are willing to embrace new habits and significant personal discomfort to do so. When I recently...
No I Won’t, You Can’t Make Me!

No I Won’t, You Can’t Make Me!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinPower Struggles: Opportunities for Connection Yes, we all know what it is to be in a power struggle, whether it’s with a parent, child, spouse, lover, friend or co-worker. Power struggles are fraught with tension, anger and...
I Want.  What Will I Do?

I Want. What Will I Do?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhat do I want and what am I willing to do? These are powerful questions that make up the internal dialog of those who have embraced intrinsic motivation; the process of identifying and expressing what one most loves. These are...
What & Why Emotional Intelligence

What & Why Emotional Intelligence

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe hear a lot of buzz these days about the importance of emotional intelligence (EI).  What exactly is “emotional intelligence” and why do we need it? There are 4 main components: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness...
Commitment

Commitment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all...
Organized Chaos on Purpose

Organized Chaos on Purpose

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinAs a child deeply in love with nature, living on the edge of a park, and the 5th child of 6, I knew a lot about chaos, the beautiful, free, creative and exhilarating kind. Starting out free to explore, school at age 5 felt like...
Did You Hear What I Meant to Say?

Did You Hear What I Meant to Say?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinHave you ever thought you had an agreement or understanding with someone only to find you didn’t? You thought you were clear and direct in a request, and ended up disappointed. Or have you responded to a request, only to find...
Connection: From Chaos to Community

Connection: From Chaos to Community

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinConnection is to humans what water is to fish; a key to our existence and a cornerstone for our behavior.  We are social beings and from infancy we make decisions and set goals in response to our social framework.  In community, we...
Personal Power is Priceless

Personal Power is Priceless

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinFeeling powerfully influential is a heady experience and one of our basic minimum human requirements for living a life of meaning. Authentic personal power developed in service to our highest purpose occurs when we know our...