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Unresolved Psychological Contracts

Unresolved Psychological Contracts

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If others tell us something we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate.” ― Miguel Ruiz, Author, The Four Agreements   A...
Episode 11 – Living the Life You Want

Episode 11 – Living the Life You Want

In my work with clients, I often hear people say, “how can I motivate this person to do what they’re supposed to? They’re lazy. They’re unmotivated.” The truth is people are always motivated. They’re just not always motivated to do what YOU want them to do.
In this episode, Judy and her guest, Tara Gregor, founder and CEO of Breakwell, a resource hub for holistic wellness discuss a very different and highly effective approach to motivation. Old models and external motivation tactics simply don’t work anymore. So, if those don’t work, what does? Tune in to this podcast to learn a new approach.

Is Your Free Will Actually Free?

Is Your Free Will Actually Free?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Free will, though it makes evil possible, is also the only thing that makes possible any love or goodness or joy worth having.” ~ C.S. Lewis Many people are aware of choices they make. What they don’t realize is that unconscious...
Are Your People High Performing? 

Are Your People High Performing? 

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence wins championships.” Michael Jordan “You can motivate by fear, and you can motivate by reward. But both those methods are only temporary. The only lasting thing is self-motivation.”...
Mentoring to Develop Your People

Mentoring to Develop Your People

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin “Your most important task as a leader is to teach people how to think and ask the right questions so that the world doesn’t go to hell if you take a day off”  Jeffrey Pfeffer   In our culture transformation model, a key...
Are My People Responsible Even When No One’s Watching?

Are My People Responsible Even When No One’s Watching?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching.” S. Lewis   For years, I have been spitting in the soup of leaders using control models whether in homes, schools, community organizations or businesses....
The Path (Back) to Being Authentic

The Path (Back) to Being Authentic

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. Accept the place the divine providence has found for you, the society of your contemporaries, the connection of events. Great men have always done so, and confided themselves...
It’s Never Too Late…To Create A Life You Love

It’s Never Too Late…To Create A Life You Love

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“It is not always sunshine that splits the seed cleaving the armor, releasing the shoot. Darkness makes the heart’s case fragile. Pain breaks it open. Courage teases out the leaves and life unfurls and expands, thrusting upwards...
Mentoring: Your Competitive Advantage

Mentoring: Your Competitive Advantage

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.” Steven Spielberg When we work in organizational culture change, our clients initially focus on...
Breaking the Addiction to Approval

Breaking the Addiction to Approval

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”...
The Crucial Role of Honor, Dignity and Respect

The Crucial Role of Honor, Dignity and Respect

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Do the best that you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” Maya Angelou All one has to do is turn on the news or get on social media to see that honoring oneself and one another and treating oneself and...
Just Use Common Sense, Or Should You?

Just Use Common Sense, Or Should You?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinA woman was preparing a roast and as was her common practice she cut off both ends of it and threw them away. One day her husband asked, “Why do you always cut off the ends and throw them away?” to which she replied, “That’s how my...
Kinds Of People You Need

Kinds Of People You Need

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.” Harry Truman No matter what your role, you have an important mission and vision to...
Advantages of Cross-Functional Teamwork

Advantages of Cross-Functional Teamwork

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOne of the biggest challenges leaders face, according to Deloitte, is organizational design. Specifically, redesigning their structures through teams. The line and block hierarchy found on a company org chart isn’t how work actually...
Intention Equals Results

Intention Equals Results

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin “The truth is incontrovertible. Panic may resent it, ignorance may deride it, malice may distort it, but there it is.” Winston Churchill Intention is a function of our minds and is a causal activity. In other words, whether we use...
How Do You Know?

How Do You Know?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOne of my favorite movies is called How do You Know? (starring Reese Witherspoon, Paul Rudd, Jack Nicholson, and Owen Wilson). It’s funny, romantic and very thought-provoking. Reese Witherspoon plays Lisa, a young 30-something that...
When Winning Turns Into Losing

When Winning Turns Into Losing

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“How tricky is this ego that it would tempt us with a promise of something we already possess.” Jim Carrey My daughter, a practicing attorney, was recently offered a great job in a small boutique law firm and was enjoying the...
Right Under My Nose

Right Under My Nose

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Developing an awareness of life beyond your immediate surroundings brings a healthy restlessness which, if infused with peace and used well, can be a foundation for positive change in the world.”   Dadi Janki, Brahmakumaris...
Become the Best Version of YOU!

Become the Best Version of YOU!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The actual processes of individuation—the conscious coming-to-terms with one’s own inner center (psychic nucleus) or Self—generally begins with a wounding of the personality and the suffering that accompanies it. This...
Become the Hero You’ve Been Waiting For

Become the Hero You’ve Been Waiting For

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever cost.”   Arthur Ashe Too many people stubbornly believe it’s...
Get More Selfish!

Get More Selfish!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Whether you believe it a moral imperative or enlightened self-interest, securing the conditions that will lead to a healthy, prosperous future for everyone is a goal I believe we all share.” Bill Gates We are often...
Motivation From The Inside Out

Motivation From The Inside Out

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Motivation is the art of getting people to do what you want them to because THEY want to do it.”   Dwight D. Eisenhower For centuries as a people, we have opted to use control measures such as command-and-control...
Culture Trumps Strategy But Purpose Trumps Everything

Culture Trumps Strategy But Purpose Trumps Everything

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and...
Who Says You’re Not Like The Dalai Lama!?

Who Says You’re Not Like The Dalai Lama!?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate… Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”Nelson Mandela How is it that we often forget our true glorious nature and cling to the weakest view of our self instead? It...
Leader-Follower Agility Is Crucial

Leader-Follower Agility Is Crucial

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Innovation is key. Only those who have the agility to change with the market and innovate quickly will survive.” Robert Kiyosaki “Success today requires the agility and drive to constantly rethink, reinvigorate, react, and...
Is My Business Agile?

Is My Business Agile?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I submit that there must be a commitment to, practice of, and execution of professional common behaviors and the presence of highly communicated standardized organizational expectations – without which there are no supports...
What’s Love Got to Do With It?

What’s Love Got to Do With It?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhether we want to associate love with our businesses or not, the presence of love or the lack of it, plays a powerful role in our ROI. It affects our profitability, health, employee engagement, teamwork, customer satisfaction; all...
Do You (Really) Believe in Win/Win?

Do You (Really) Believe in Win/Win?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Lead the life that will make you kindly and friendly to everyone, and you will be surprised what a happy life you will lead.” Charles M. Schwab When most people are asked if they believe in and want win/win, they answer with the...
Walking the Talk

Walking the Talk

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“It is difficult to inspire others to accomplish what you haven’t been willing to try.”     Confucius “It is my responsibility to do what inspires me, in order to inspire others to do what inspires them.”      Tsepiso...
Are you Strategically Aligned?

Are you Strategically Aligned?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau What many business owners...
Are You Free To Access Your Wisdom?

Are You Free To Access Your Wisdom?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinMost people are less able to access their wisdom than they know. And that’s because they are in survival mode more than they know. We experience various degrees of survival whenever we are triggered, reactive and experiencing our...
Help People Conceive, Believe, & Achieve

Help People Conceive, Believe, & Achieve

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe difference between an idea and a commitment is the difference between knowing about a new tool and using it in your everyday life as a new habit and way of operating. The greatest challenge many of my clients encounter as they...
What do you Intend to Cause?

What do you Intend to Cause?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” Albert Einstein   When I work with businesses, organizations, families, and individuals, people are usually confused by this question: What do you...
Creating a Life YOU Love

Creating a Life YOU Love

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Selfishness is a virtue, unless you think it must come at the expense of others. And why would anyone think that? Oh yeah, that’s what all the people who don’t “get it” told you.”  Mike Dooley  ...
Part 2 of 5 – Human Systems – What Gets Measured Improves

Part 2 of 5 – Human Systems – What Gets Measured Improves

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I have been struck again and again by how important measurement is to improving the human condition.” Bill Gates What Gets Measured Improves Motivated, successful, and contributing. That’s what you need your staff to be...
Get Along. Get Inspired. Get Results.

Get Along. Get Inspired. Get Results.

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Before one can hit a grand-slam home run, it first requires singles, doubles or triples.” Unknown   Every business owner sets up their organization with high hopes and a dream of making a difference, yet all the great ideas...
Your Blueprint for Constructing Success

Your Blueprint for Constructing Success

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”                                                ...
Being Trustworthy Isn’t Building Trust

Being Trustworthy Isn’t Building Trust

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” Stephen R. Covey I teach and consult on the importance of the following eight...
From Compliance to Commitment

From Compliance to Commitment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You get the best efforts from others not by lighting a fire beneath them, but by building a fire within.”   -Bob Nelson Compliance People used to think of the workplace in terms of the activities and behaviors that...
2. Honesty: Don’t Play Others, Don’t Play You!

2. Honesty: Don’t Play Others, Don’t Play You!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“When you face a choice between being polite and being honest, err on the side of the truth. It’s better to be disliked but respected than to be liked and disrespected. In the long run, the people we trust the most are those who...
5. Respect: Valuing Unconditionally

5. Respect: Valuing Unconditionally

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRespect is making the needs, perspectives and feelings of others as important as your own. A win/lose dynamic has gone on for many years and still continues today. Evidence of this shows up in our relationships between unions and...
6. Recognition: Why is Recognition Important To Trust?

6. Recognition: Why is Recognition Important To Trust?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”...
8. Seeking Excellence: Are You All You Can Be?

8. Seeking Excellence: Are You All You Can Be?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives – choice, not chance, determines your destiny.”     ...
7. Follow-Through: Do I Mean What I Say?

7. Follow-Through: Do I Mean What I Say?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Intent without action will leave every word that I use to describe my intent as empty and best never said.”  Craig D. Lounsbrough   Imagine you ask someone to do something and they agree. You count on it, and then come to find...
Are You Cultivating Excellence?

Are You Cultivating Excellence?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinNational research shows 29% of employees are engaged in excellence. They’re eager, willing, and personally responsible. The remaining 71% are mediocre or actively disengaged… Ghandi, Helen Keller, DaVinci, or simply a...
Why Are You Here?

Why Are You Here?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Believe in your heart that you’re meant to live a life full of passion, purpose, magic and miracles.” Roy T. Bennett, Author, The Light in the Heart   You’re challenged by a co-worker, client, friend or child; you’re up...
Kinds of People I Need

Kinds of People I Need

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.”  Harry Truman An important question to consider is, “What kinds of people do I need and...
Courage to be Imperfect

Courage to be Imperfect

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging have the courage to be imperfect.” Brené Brown   Why are we the most addicted, medicated, overweight, and indebted society in history? Brene Brown, researcher, author and...
Are We Compatible?

Are We Compatible?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhether in business or personal relationships, a worthwhile question to ponder is what constitutes compatibility? I went to a lecture by Dr. Denbo, a local therapist, who posed this question. Most of the crowd said things like,...
Soul Mates

Soul Mates

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinLike many of you, I’ve always wanted a soul mate – that wonderful partner who in their presence makes me feel connected and whole. The one who really gets me and who’s there for me through thick and thin, for better or worse, richer...
Can a Team-Hater Engage Employees?

Can a Team-Hater Engage Employees?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinby Julia Paulus (referencing Judy Ryan and LifeWork Systems) SBM, March 2010 I don’t like teams.  Back in school, I hated classes when we had to do group projects.  My group was always the one where a couple of people did nothing...
Wake up Tickled and Inspired!

Wake up Tickled and Inspired!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Are you ready to be wildly successful while supporting the same in others? if so… what are you waiting for?” Now’s the time to take these steps so you too awaken tickled and inspired… One of my most significant...
Game-Changing Appreciative Inquiry

Game-Changing Appreciative Inquiry

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinImagine two scenarios both involving a couple struggling in their relationship and seeking marriage counseling. In the first instance, the couple is asked questions centering on their problems, including their origin and possible...
What Does it Take to Build Trust?

What Does it Take to Build Trust?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinI’ve delivered many team building workshops to corporations, schools and parent groups in which I focus on the behaviors that build trust and those that don’t. One behavior destructive to any team is gossip and part of my program is...
Connect to Your Light!

Connect to Your Light!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRecently, I took a self-imposed retreat to discover how to more fully operate from freedom, courage and joy. As women, unless the light of love is flowing fully in our family or in our intimate relationships, we’re not fulfilled...
Keep The End In Mind

Keep The End In Mind

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinIn any situation in which you are uncertain, the first thing to consider very simply is, “What do I want to come of this? What is it for?” The clarification of the goal belongs at the beginning of any course of action because the...
Pause, Breathe and Check In

Pause, Breathe and Check In

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThich Nhat Hahn, a well- known author and Buddhist monk says we are reluctant to visit the home of our self because we are loath to face the pain, sadness and fear we might encounter there. It’s true those emotions are often...
I Want.  What Will I Do?

I Want. What Will I Do?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhat do I want and what am I willing to do? These are powerful questions that make up the internal dialog of those who have embraced intrinsic motivation; the process of identifying and expressing what one most loves. These are...
What & Why Emotional Intelligence

What & Why Emotional Intelligence

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe hear a lot of buzz these days about the importance of emotional intelligence (EI).  What exactly is “emotional intelligence” and why do we need it? There are 4 main components: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness...
Commitment

Commitment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all...
Vision is Everything

Vision is Everything

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“By failing to prepare you are preparing to fail.” Benjamin Franklin It’s becoming more popular to talk about the power of our vision and the role it plays in creating extraordinary outcomes in our personal and professional...
What You Look For You Will Find

What You Look For You Will Find

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOne of the great benefits and challenges of growing up is choice – consciously exercising it that is!  We are always choosing, we just don’t always ask ourselves what, how and why we are choosing.  Our focus makes all the...
Organized Chaos on Purpose

Organized Chaos on Purpose

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinAs a child deeply in love with nature, living on the edge of a park, and the 5th child of 6, I knew a lot about chaos, the beautiful, free, creative and exhilarating kind. Starting out free to explore, school at age 5 felt like...
Did You Hear What I Meant to Say?

Did You Hear What I Meant to Say?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinHave you ever thought you had an agreement or understanding with someone only to find you didn’t? You thought you were clear and direct in a request, and ended up disappointed. Or have you responded to a request, only to find...
Connection: From Chaos to Community

Connection: From Chaos to Community

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinConnection is to humans what water is to fish; a key to our existence and a cornerstone for our behavior.  We are social beings and from infancy we make decisions and set goals in response to our social framework.  In community, we...
Personal Power is Priceless

Personal Power is Priceless

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinFeeling powerfully influential is a heady experience and one of our basic minimum human requirements for living a life of meaning. Authentic personal power developed in service to our highest purpose occurs when we know our...