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Unresolved Psychological Contracts

Unresolved Psychological Contracts

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If others tell us something we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate.” ― Miguel Ruiz, Author, The Four Agreements   A...
Manipulation

Manipulation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Arriving at the destination is more than just having the map.” Judy Ryan, CEO LifeWork Systems   Manipulation has gotten a bad rap. We often feel insulted and become defensive when we or someone we love is described as...
A Fool with a Tool is Still a Fool

A Fool with a Tool is Still a Fool

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A fool with a tool is still a fool.” Grady Booch, American Software Engineer   In any situation involving significant transformation, the most important change process is the one within, one’s mindset. In my 12-month culture...
Your Greatest Barrier Is Your Pain Tolerance

Your Greatest Barrier Is Your Pain Tolerance

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“…Sometimes I suspect that what had really happened was that we became more resigned, more cynical, raised our pain thresholds as we lowered our expectations. All in all, we settled for less.” Emma Donoghue, Playwright   It’s...
Can Love Be Here Too?

Can Love Be Here Too?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” —Brené Brown As I work with clients on their personal and professional development or help friends and family who are working...
Seize Opportunities Within the Great Resignation

Seize Opportunities Within the Great Resignation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The true test of character is to live win-win even when promoted to positions where win-lose is possible.” ― Orrin Woodward   If you search google, you’ll find The Great Resignation is defined as an informal name for the...
Stop Protecting Your Reputation

Stop Protecting Your Reputation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The strongest oak tree of the forest is not the one protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It’s the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and...
Shifting Social Power Relations

Shifting Social Power Relations

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“To reflect upon the present as history is to understand that history may now be made by default. Understanding that, we no longer need accept as “necessary” the lesser evil. We no longer need to accept historical fate, for fate is...
Episode 11 – Living the Life You Want

Episode 11 – Living the Life You Want

In my work with clients, I often hear people say, “how can I motivate this person to do what they’re supposed to? They’re lazy. They’re unmotivated.” The truth is people are always motivated. They’re just not always motivated to do what YOU want them to do.
In this episode, Judy and her guest, Tara Gregor, founder and CEO of Breakwell, a resource hub for holistic wellness discuss a very different and highly effective approach to motivation. Old models and external motivation tactics simply don’t work anymore. So, if those don’t work, what does? Tune in to this podcast to learn a new approach.

Episode 10 – Leaders Driving Culture Change

Episode 10 – Leaders Driving Culture Change

In my work with clients, I often hear people say, “how can I motivate this person to do what they’re supposed to? They’re lazy. They’re unmotivated.” The truth is people are always motivated. They’re just not always motivated to do what YOU want them to do.
In this episode, Judy and her guest, Tara Gregor, founder and CEO of Breakwell, a resource hub for holistic wellness discuss a very different and highly effective approach to motivation. Old models and external motivation tactics simply don’t work anymore. So, if those don’t work, what does? Tune in to this podcast to learn a new approach.

The Danger in Larger-Than-Life Heroes

The Danger in Larger-Than-Life Heroes

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The danger in larger-than-life heroes is that many get affixed to their perceived status and achievements to the cost of themselves and others.” Judy Ryan, CEO LifeWork Systems I have met leaders who have accomplished great things....
An Inclusive Culture is a Winning Culture

An Inclusive Culture is a Winning Culture

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”                           ~Martin Luther King, Jr   What a noteworthy time...
Is Your Free Will Actually Free?

Is Your Free Will Actually Free?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Free will, though it makes evil possible, is also the only thing that makes possible any love or goodness or joy worth having.” ~ C.S. Lewis Many people are aware of choices they make. What they don’t realize is that unconscious...
Are Your People High Performing? 

Are Your People High Performing? 

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence wins championships.” Michael Jordan “You can motivate by fear, and you can motivate by reward. But both those methods are only temporary. The only lasting thing is self-motivation.”...
Use of Power

Use of Power

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The day the power of love overrules the love of power, the world will know peace.” ― Mahatma Gandhi   “Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” ― Abraham Lincoln   I...
Mentoring to Develop Your People

Mentoring to Develop Your People

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin “Your most important task as a leader is to teach people how to think and ask the right questions so that the world doesn’t go to hell if you take a day off”  Jeffrey Pfeffer   In our culture transformation model, a key...
Do You Have a Powerful, Positive and Helpful Ego?

Do You Have a Powerful, Positive and Helpful Ego?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If being an egomaniac means I believe in what I do and, in my art or music, then in that respect you can call me that… I believe in what I do, and I’ll say it.” John Lennon   The notion of ego is often used to describe the...
Are You a Transactional or a Transformational Leader?

Are You a Transactional or a Transformational Leader?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish.” Sam Walton Transactional leadership or transactional management is the...
Why Ditch Annual Performance Appraisals

Why Ditch Annual Performance Appraisals

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You can motivate by fear, and you can motivate by reward. But both of those methods are only temporary. The only lasting thing is self-motivation.” Homer Rice, a former American football player, coach, and college athletics...
Rip Out ALL the Roots

Rip Out ALL the Roots

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“There is a law that man should love his neighbor as himself. In a few hundred years it should be as natural to mankind as breathing or the upright gait; but if he does not learn it he must perish.” Alfred Adler To exact...
Power Distance Index – Managing Relationships with Authority

Power Distance Index – Managing Relationships with Authority

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Some societies and religions have a tendency to expand the moral circle and to consider all humans as belonging to a single moral community.” Geert Hofstede, Social Psychologist I was re-reading Malcolm Gladwell’s book Outliers and...
Globalization – Embracing Our Oneness

Globalization – Embracing Our Oneness

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Accordingly, globalization is not only something that will concern and threaten us in the future, but something that is taking place in the present and to which we must first open our eyes.”      Ulrich Beck, German Sociologist and...
Task Ownership

Task Ownership

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The educator must believe in the potential power of his pupil, and he must employ all his art in seeking to bring his pupil to experience this power.” Alfred Adler, Psychologist Task ownership Task ownership is when a person is...
Episode 1- Spitting in the Soup

Episode 1- Spitting in the Soup

This topic is designed to challenge basic norms we’ve held sacrosanct for centuries. These are the four control models described in this episode as widely promoted means to cultivate good citizenship in homes, schools, churches, and workplaces; really everywhere. This episode helps listeners to recognize these as the impediments they are and that they need to be dismantled and replaced with new models.

Episode 1- Spitting in the Soup

Spitting In The Soup

People are always motivated. It’s not anyone’s job to motivate others. People can control themselves. They can do what’s right and don’t need approval or shaming to do so. They don’t need to be enabled. The problem is we don’t have faith in people nor do we know how to effectively teach them to pick up responsibility for things that are theirs to own. When we learn to do so, others can become accountable, caring and fully engaged, making a positive difference in your business.

The Path (Back) to Being Authentic

The Path (Back) to Being Authentic

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. Accept the place the divine providence has found for you, the society of your contemporaries, the connection of events. Great men have always done so, and confided themselves...
It’s Never Too Late…To Create A Life You Love

It’s Never Too Late…To Create A Life You Love

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“It is not always sunshine that splits the seed cleaving the armor, releasing the shoot. Darkness makes the heart’s case fragile. Pain breaks it open. Courage teases out the leaves and life unfurls and expands, thrusting upwards...
Honesty is the Best Policy – or is it?

Honesty is the Best Policy – or is it?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Failure of an employee to speak up in a crucial moment cannot be seen. This is true whether that employee is on the front lines of customer service or sitting next to you in the executive board room. And because not offering an...
Why Transparency CAN Become a Bloodbath

Why Transparency CAN Become a Bloodbath

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Killers aren’t always assassins. Sometimes, they don’t even have blood on their hands.”   ~ Ruta Sepetys, Author I once knew a school teacher who quit her job teaching 8th graders (which she loved) to work for my...
Discarding the Monster Box

Discarding the Monster Box

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A man who picks up a cat by its tail will learn a lesson he can learn no other way.”     ~ Mark Twain Your business will improve if you remember some important facts. One is that we are all more alike than different. The other is...
Google’s Former Head of HR Issues a Warning

Google’s Former Head of HR Issues a Warning

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinAll Business Owners and Leadership Teams Should Read Culture matters, now more than ever. Laszlo Bock shares three reasons the timing has never been better to invest in your organization’s culture. Culture influences...
Managing Evolutionary Change

Managing Evolutionary Change

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ― Albert Einstein   “Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs...
Upgrading Our Human Systems

Upgrading Our Human Systems

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The time is now. Because in this time of change, the world needs every one of us to stand in our power, reach our highest potential, share our gifts and be the best that we can be. Humanity can no longer accept antiquated...
Hispanic Heroes

Hispanic Heroes

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinNote: While this article was written for Autentico and focused on Hispanic leadership, the concepts within are applicable to all people. “You are not lucky to be here. The world needs your perspective. They are lucky to have you.”...
Is Love More Powerful Than Hate?

Is Love More Powerful Than Hate?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You are a child of God. You’re playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”                          Marianne Williamson I often...
Mentoring: Your Competitive Advantage

Mentoring: Your Competitive Advantage

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.” Steven Spielberg When we work in organizational culture change, our clients initially focus on...
Breaking the Addiction to Approval

Breaking the Addiction to Approval

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”...
Is Your Workplace Psychologically Safe?

Is Your Workplace Psychologically Safe?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“In general, only a child who feels safe dares to grow forward healthily. His safety needs must be gratified. He can’t be pushed ahead, because the ungratified safety needs will remain forever underground, always calling for...
Devil’s Advocate and Brutal Honesty

Devil’s Advocate and Brutal Honesty

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Never play the Devil’s Advocate. Your words could be the difference between success and failure in someone else.”  Ingrid Weir Too often I hear people say, “I’m going to play Devil’s advocate now” to which I quickly reply, “Please...
The Crucial Role of Honor, Dignity and Respect

The Crucial Role of Honor, Dignity and Respect

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Do the best that you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” Maya Angelou All one has to do is turn on the news or get on social media to see that honoring oneself and one another and treating oneself and...
Teal Organizations

Teal Organizations

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe Teal paradigm refers to the next stage in the evolution of human consciousness.[1] When applied to organizations, this paradigm views the organization as an independent force with its own purpose, and not merely as a vehicle for...
Just Use Common Sense, Or Should You?

Just Use Common Sense, Or Should You?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinA woman was preparing a roast and as was her common practice she cut off both ends of it and threw them away. One day her husband asked, “Why do you always cut off the ends and throw them away?” to which she replied, “That’s how my...
Kinds Of People You Need

Kinds Of People You Need

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.” Harry Truman No matter what your role, you have an important mission and vision to...
Meeting Our Needs and Those Of Others

Meeting Our Needs and Those Of Others

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOur Basic Social Needs: Belonging and Significance Beyond basic survival, we all want to experience a healthy sense of belonging and significance through our four core social needs: to  feel powerful, lovable, connected and...
The Courage To Be Disliked

The Courage To Be Disliked

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“When we least expect it, life sets up a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will...
Your Secret Weapon: Informal Influencers

Your Secret Weapon: Informal Influencers

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinTo get these influencers to model the desired behaviour, you need their buy-in. Gather them together for a closed-door session and explain why their role is crucial. Often, it just takes an open conversation to help them understand...
DUP Global Human Capital Trends

DUP Global Human Capital Trends

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThis workforce is changing. It’s more digital, more global, diverse, automation-savvy, and social media- proficient. At the same time, business expectations, needs, and demands are evolving faster than ever before. While some view...
The Rise of The Social Enterprise

The Rise of The Social Enterprise

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinTHE SYMPHONIC C-SUITE: TEAMS LEADING TEAMS Senior leaders can’t afford to work in silos in today’s complex, dynamic environment. The goal is to act as a symphony of experts playing in harmony—instead of a cacophony of experts who...
Reciprocal Care in Hierarchical Exchange

Reciprocal Care in Hierarchical Exchange

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinLeaders play a key role in creating a work environment that enables employees to fulfill their creative and innovative potential, generate new ideas, and implement those ideas. This is a challenging task because generating and...
The Ideal Millennial Work Environment

The Ideal Millennial Work Environment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThere are a number of things that guide millennials in the workplace. They want to be happier than their parents, find more purposeful work and work with better companies. Millennials want their companies to align with their values....
The Agile Cultural Shift

The Agile Cultural Shift

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinToday’s rapidly changing, digitally infused markets and the intensifying fight for customers demand that organizations execute with unprecedented speed and agility. To address this reality, enterprises are looking for an edge; and,...
If Not Punishment, Then What?

If Not Punishment, Then What?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinToxic Shame is a neurotic, irrational feeling of worthlessness, humiliation, self-loathing and paralyzing feeling that has been inflicted onto an individual through repeated, traumatic experiences often, but not always, rooted in...
Intention Equals Results

Intention Equals Results

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin “The truth is incontrovertible. Panic may resent it, ignorance may deride it, malice may distort it, but there it is.” Winston Churchill Intention is a function of our minds and is a causal activity. In other words, whether we use...
Authentic Power

Authentic Power

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinDo you trust people to want and choose to be caring, and accountable without coercion? Do you make it your mission to develop their initiative or to control them instead? Consider today’s research quoted in an article entitled The...
How Do You Know?

How Do You Know?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOne of my favorite movies is called How do You Know? (starring Reese Witherspoon, Paul Rudd, Jack Nicholson, and Owen Wilson). It’s funny, romantic and very thought-provoking. Reese Witherspoon plays Lisa, a young 30-something that...
When Winning Turns Into Losing

When Winning Turns Into Losing

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“How tricky is this ego that it would tempt us with a promise of something we already possess.” Jim Carrey My daughter, a practicing attorney, was recently offered a great job in a small boutique law firm and was enjoying the...
Emotional Presence: It’s Good Business!

Emotional Presence: It’s Good Business!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The affairs of the heart are directly connected to the brain and it’s theheart’s natural intelligence that must be unfolded for the brain to operate with greater efficiency.”         Magical Child, Joseph...
Be THE Decisive Element

Be THE Decisive Element

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or...
Commit to Personal Responsibility

Commit to Personal Responsibility

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid...
Embrace the Edge of the Unknown

Embrace the Edge of the Unknown

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”  Helen Keller For most business owners, living on the edge of...
Right Under My Nose

Right Under My Nose

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Developing an awareness of life beyond your immediate surroundings brings a healthy restlessness which, if infused with peace and used well, can be a foundation for positive change in the world.”   Dadi Janki, Brahmakumaris...
Accountability IS Happiness!

Accountability IS Happiness!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“While it doesn’t sound too exciting, I believe happiness is being 100% accountable for your life.”   Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love I couldn’t agree more. Being accountable is taking 100%...
Like PB&J, Freedom & Responsibility

Like PB&J, Freedom & Responsibility

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”   Sigmund Freud, Civilization and Its Discontents What would our world be like, (including our...
Become the Best Version of YOU!

Become the Best Version of YOU!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The actual processes of individuation—the conscious coming-to-terms with one’s own inner center (psychic nucleus) or Self—generally begins with a wounding of the personality and the suffering that accompanies it. This...
Loved AND Lovable

Loved AND Lovable

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”   Elizabeth Appell In my work, I help people take the risk to blossom. I tell business leaders, employees,...
Be Your Most Imaginal Self!

Be Your Most Imaginal Self!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.” Proverb Consider the following ellipses from the books “Butterfly,” by Norie Huddle, and “Waking the Global Heart,” by Anodea Judith. Caterpillars are...
Become the Hero You’ve Been Waiting For

Become the Hero You’ve Been Waiting For

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever cost.”   Arthur Ashe Too many people stubbornly believe it’s...
Get More Selfish!

Get More Selfish!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Whether you believe it a moral imperative or enlightened self-interest, securing the conditions that will lead to a healthy, prosperous future for everyone is a goal I believe we all share.” Bill Gates We are often...
Your Powerful Agreements

Your Powerful Agreements

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive –to be alive and express what we really are. Just being our self is the biggest fear of humans.” Don Miguel Ruiz  “There is no...
Motivation From The Inside Out

Motivation From The Inside Out

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Motivation is the art of getting people to do what you want them to because THEY want to do it.”   Dwight D. Eisenhower For centuries as a people, we have opted to use control measures such as command-and-control...
Millennials: Canaries In The Coal Mine

Millennials: Canaries In The Coal Mine

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Age is no better, hardly so well, qualified for an instructor as youth, for it has not profited so much as it has lost.” Henry David Thoreau, Walden & Civil Disobedience A canary in the coal mine refers to a time when canaries...
Keep Moving Forward Into Transformation

Keep Moving Forward Into Transformation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, keep moving forward.”Martin Luther King Imagine you commit to construct conditions in which...
Be Unconsciously Competent

Be Unconsciously Competent

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” “We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us”. Joseph Campbell, Author Often, we are afraid to make...
The Education Of Our Children

The Education Of Our Children

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Consider the kingdom you have made and judge its worth fairly. Is it worthy of a child of God? Does it protect his peace and shine love upon him? Does it keep his heart untouched by fear and allow him to give always, without any...
I Can’t be a Good Boss & a Friend too

I Can’t be a Good Boss & a Friend too

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“To power up the whole system involves learning to bring the heart and mind into a creative joint venture. Heart intelligence supplies balanced strength and allows more of one’s individual spirit — the passionate...
Cruelest Three Words: “Get Over It!”

Cruelest Three Words: “Get Over It!”

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The purpose of all relationships is to create a sacred context within which you can express the fullness of who you are.” Neale Donald Walsh In my work, the greatest setbacks and arrested development of people is...
Men & Women Leading Together

Men & Women Leading Together

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“In the end, what will hurt the most is not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends.”     Martin Luther King, Jr. I sent a TED talk to a male friend, entitled Violence Against Women; it’s a Men’s...
The Power of Mentoring

The Power of Mentoring

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.” ― Plato “The mind is not a...
The Courage To Change & Grow

The Courage To Change & Grow

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“An unexamined life is not worth living” Plato Here it is another New Year’s Day! It’s a time to reflect, re-set, and re-create. We consider our health, wealth, relationships, spirituality, and our purpose and...
Successfully Navigate The Future

Successfully Navigate The Future

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The most exciting breakthroughs of the twenty-first century will not occur because of technology, but because of an expanding concept of what it means to be human.”   John Naisbitt Whether you welcome or resist it,...
Cover Story: Me Too: Unwrapping Abuse Systems

Cover Story: Me Too: Unwrapping Abuse Systems

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“An insight the size of a mustard seed is powerful enough to bring down a mountain-sized illusion that may be holding our lives together. Truth strikes without mercy. We fear our intuitions because we fear the transformational...
Perceptual Blindness

Perceptual Blindness

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin “Change blindness in the world of facts and knowledge is a problem. Sometimes we are exposed to new facts and simply filter them out. But more often we have to go out of our way in order to learn something new. Our blindness is not...
The Preponderance of Neglect

The Preponderance of Neglect

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Most organizations don’t fall apart as a result of one big blow. Most relationships don’t end because of one grand argument. Most lives don’t fall to pieces due to one sad event. No, I suggest to you that sustained failure...
Episode 8 – If Not Punishment, Then What?

Why Are We So Stuck?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“One of the true tests of leadership is the ability to recognize a problem before it becomes an emergency.”   Arnold H. Glasgow This is a challenging time to be American. On the one hand people are talking about...
Choose You

Choose You

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Most men (and women) lead lives of quiet desperation and die with their song still inside them.” Henry David Thoreau It’s difficult for many people, especially women, to choose themselves in their own lives and then they lead lives...
Who Says You’re Not Like The Dalai Lama!?

Who Says You’re Not Like The Dalai Lama!?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate… Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”Nelson Mandela How is it that we often forget our true glorious nature and cling to the weakest view of our self instead? It...
Life Is Calling YOU!

Life Is Calling YOU!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You are braver than you think, more talented than you realize.” R. Bennett I watched a documentary on the pyramids recently and learned something that made me hopeful while confirming what I have already felt intuitively. Despite...
Leader-Follower Agility Is Crucial

Leader-Follower Agility Is Crucial

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Innovation is key. Only those who have the agility to change with the market and innovate quickly will survive.” Robert Kiyosaki “Success today requires the agility and drive to constantly rethink, reinvigorate, react, and...
Teal is the Trend. What Color is Your Organization?

Teal is the Trend. What Color is Your Organization?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” Margaret Mead, American cultural anthropologist “Management is, above all, a practice where...
“I’m Sorry You Feel That Way” – “I Never Intended That…”

“I’m Sorry You Feel That Way” – “I Never Intended That…”

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you own the story you get to write the ending.” Brene Brown   “We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.” George Bernard Shaw Why It’s Never Helpful to Say, “I’m Sorry...
Is My Business Agile?

Is My Business Agile?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I submit that there must be a commitment to, practice of, and execution of professional common behaviors and the presence of highly communicated standardized organizational expectations – without which there are no supports...
What Does “I’m Right; You’re Wrong” Cost?

What Does “I’m Right; You’re Wrong” Cost?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Remember, we see the world not as it is but as we are. Most of us see through the eyes of our fears and our limiting beliefs and our false assumptions.” Robin S. Sharma “Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask...
Bridging Differences For Diversity & Inclusion Excellence!

Bridging Differences For Diversity & Inclusion Excellence!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and...
What’s Love Got to Do With It?

What’s Love Got to Do With It?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhether we want to associate love with our businesses or not, the presence of love or the lack of it, plays a powerful role in our ROI. It affects our profitability, health, employee engagement, teamwork, customer satisfaction; all...
You Make Sense & Deserve Compassion

You Make Sense & Deserve Compassion

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinEveryone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.   Unknown What if you knew every reaction (and even what you fear are over-reactions) you experience is based on legitimate reasons and deserves...
Do You (Really) Believe in Win/Win?

Do You (Really) Believe in Win/Win?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Lead the life that will make you kindly and friendly to everyone, and you will be surprised what a happy life you will lead.” Charles M. Schwab When most people are asked if they believe in and want win/win, they answer with the...
Episode 2 – Are You a Puppet Or Powerful?

Do You Control or Develop Your Staff?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.” Henry Cloud Your greatest asset is a team of...
Teach them to Fish

Teach them to Fish

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Maimonides The Dilemma Many systems and strategies of the past are no longer effective. Schools were originally designed to...
Work/Life Balance

Work/Life Balance

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhat helps anyone, anytime, with almost anything? Figure out what you want and learn how to ask for it! From the movie, “How Do You Know?” Watch and learn how you would do this more often. Click on the image below...
Realize the Gravity of the Situation

Realize the Gravity of the Situation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinDan Price, CEO of Gravity Payments recently made a landmark decision to take a pay cut from $1M to $70K annually in order to pay each of his employees the same. His decision has sparked controversy. What Kind of Workplace Culture Do...
It Just Got Real

It Just Got Real

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhen Beethoven looked at the piano keys, he saw a symphony. When Michael Jordan saw a basketball, he saw greatness. When I meet people, I see powerful sublime human systems. I see the unseen, the narrative that is more powerful than...
Are You Free To Access Your Wisdom?

Are You Free To Access Your Wisdom?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinMost people are less able to access their wisdom than they know. And that’s because they are in survival mode more than they know. We experience various degrees of survival whenever we are triggered, reactive and experiencing our...
Help People Conceive, Believe, & Achieve

Help People Conceive, Believe, & Achieve

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe difference between an idea and a commitment is the difference between knowing about a new tool and using it in your everyday life as a new habit and way of operating. The greatest challenge many of my clients encounter as they...
Conducting Business From The Heart

Conducting Business From The Heart

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhen I speak of heart in this article, I am referring specifically to our heart’s purpose, inspired from within, deeply stirring us, leading us to take actions that matter most to us. In my work with clients, I find that many don’t...
Books Worth Reading

Books Worth Reading

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Salvation is certainly among the reasons I read. Reading and writing have always pulled me out of the darkest experiences in my life. Stories have given me a place in which to lose myself. They have allowed me to remember. They...
Are You Building Capacity for Change?

Are You Building Capacity for Change?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” Jack Welch   What is capacity building and how does it affect your ability to make positive...
Are you Running Your Business from Fear or Freedom?

Are you Running Your Business from Fear or Freedom?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Live your life like you use your GPS. Set a course for your destination, make sure your vehicle is in good shape, trust you’ll eventually arrive and be content with the next instruction without knowing what’s after.” Judy Ryan, CEO...
Power Over? Power Under? Power Within!

Power Over? Power Under? Power Within!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.” Nelson Mandela   I was born and raised in Ferguson, MO and recent events there have...
Building Caring Connections

Building Caring Connections

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.”   Theodore Roosevelt “Caring about others, running the risk of feeling, and leaving an impact on people, brings happiness.”    Harold Kushner   I frequently...
What do you Intend to Cause?

What do you Intend to Cause?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” Albert Einstein   When I work with businesses, organizations, families, and individuals, people are usually confused by this question: What do you...
Could Your Head Be Buried In The Sand?

Could Your Head Be Buried In The Sand?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I can calculate the motion of heavenly bodies, but not the madness of people.” Isaac Newton     You’ve seen it happen to others and you may have already experienced it yourself: shocking setbacks in running your business....
A Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves Together

A Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves Together

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinA Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves. Leaders determine the happiness of their workplace community. When you think of a happy community, you likely picture good team players that pitch in, are positive and manage themselves...
How to Transform Your Workplace

How to Transform Your Workplace

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” Albert Einstein   “Just as a snake sheds its skin, we must shed our past over and over again.” Gautama Buddha   A healthy organization is based on shared responsibility...
Shifting From Victim to Victor

Shifting From Victim to Victor

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Good people are not those who lack flaws, the brave are not those who feel no fear, and the generous are not those who never feel selfish. Extraordinary people ae not extraordinary because they are invulnerable to unconscious...
Rejuvenate Your Ho-Hum Meetings

Rejuvenate Your Ho-Hum Meetings

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Meeting people in a genuine way and feeling like there is a vital and meaningful connection going on makes me come alive.”       Sharon Salzberg, NY Times Best-Selling Author   Staff meetings provide your employees a unique...
You’re Not The Boss of Me!

You’re Not The Boss of Me!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Trying to win a power struggle is like trying to win a nuclear war. You may achieve your goal, but not without catastrophic casualties on both sides.” Jamie Raser, Author of Raising Children You Can Live With   A man I know...
Key to Your Joy: Honor Your Sensitivity

Key to Your Joy: Honor Your Sensitivity

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness…Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and...
Creating a Life YOU Love

Creating a Life YOU Love

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Selfishness is a virtue, unless you think it must come at the expense of others. And why would anyone think that? Oh yeah, that’s what all the people who don’t “get it” told you.”  Mike Dooley  ...
Extraordinary People & Results

Extraordinary People & Results

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“It is not the ultimate achievement that makes you extraordinary; it is what you become on the way to that achievement that people celebrate. Saidi Mdala, Author of Know What Matters Are you experiencing poor relationships? Seeing...
Holding Others Accountable

Holding Others Accountable

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The committed heart finds a way. The uncommitted heart finds an excuse.” Unknown Your daughter or son agrees to complete a chore and you arrive home only to find it incomplete once again. You ask one of your employees to contribute...
Being Trustworthy Isn’t Building Trust

Being Trustworthy Isn’t Building Trust

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” Stephen R. Covey I teach and consult on the importance of the following eight...
From Compliance to Commitment

From Compliance to Commitment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You get the best efforts from others not by lighting a fire beneath them, but by building a fire within.”   -Bob Nelson Compliance People used to think of the workplace in terms of the activities and behaviors that...
Let’s Break a Rule: the 20/80 Rule

Let’s Break a Rule: the 20/80 Rule

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“We all have burdens and we need to learn to carry each other’s burdens, lighten each other’s load.”     Ann Romney Improve Your Employee AND Customer Satisfaction Your customer satisfaction is directly tied to your...
It Takes a Village

It Takes a Village

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Everybody in a village had a role to play in bringing up a child—and cherishing it—and in return that child would in due course feel responsible for everybody in that village. That is what makes life in society possible. We must...
2. Honesty: Don’t Play Others, Don’t Play You!

2. Honesty: Don’t Play Others, Don’t Play You!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“When you face a choice between being polite and being honest, err on the side of the truth. It’s better to be disliked but respected than to be liked and disrespected. In the long run, the people we trust the most are those who...
3. Receptivity: Are You Receptive?

3. Receptivity: Are You Receptive?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Receptivity and sensitiveness are what makes one’s behavior endearing and enriching. Do not try to thrust your likes and dislikes on others. Try instead, to find out what those around would expect from you and where you can...
4. Disclosure: Will You Show Us Who YOU Are?

4. Disclosure: Will You Show Us Who YOU Are?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.” Brené Brown, Author, Speaker   I teach eight values needed to build trust: honesty, straightforwardness, respect, receptivity, recognition, keeping commitments, seeking...
5. Respect: Valuing Unconditionally

5. Respect: Valuing Unconditionally

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRespect is making the needs, perspectives and feelings of others as important as your own. A win/lose dynamic has gone on for many years and still continues today. Evidence of this shows up in our relationships between unions and...
6. Recognition: Why is Recognition Important To Trust?

6. Recognition: Why is Recognition Important To Trust?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”...
8. Seeking Excellence: Are You All You Can Be?

8. Seeking Excellence: Are You All You Can Be?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives – choice, not chance, determines your destiny.”     ...
7. Follow-Through: Do I Mean What I Say?

7. Follow-Through: Do I Mean What I Say?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Intent without action will leave every word that I use to describe my intent as empty and best never said.”  Craig D. Lounsbrough   Imagine you ask someone to do something and they agree. You count on it, and then come to find...
Are You Cultivating Excellence?

Are You Cultivating Excellence?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinNational research shows 29% of employees are engaged in excellence. They’re eager, willing, and personally responsible. The remaining 71% are mediocre or actively disengaged… Ghandi, Helen Keller, DaVinci, or simply a...
Why Are You Here?

Why Are You Here?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Believe in your heart that you’re meant to live a life full of passion, purpose, magic and miracles.” Roy T. Bennett, Author, The Light in the Heart   You’re challenged by a co-worker, client, friend or child; you’re up...
How Do I Deal With That Annoying Person?

How Do I Deal With That Annoying Person?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“There is nothing so annoying as having two people talking when you’re busy interrupting.” Mark Twain   You know that person who cracks a joke at an inopportune moment? Taps their pen on the conference room desk? Stands...
Reasons We Gossip & What To Do Instead

Reasons We Gossip & What To Do Instead

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.” Steve Maraboli, Author, Life, the...
Kinds of People I Need

Kinds of People I Need

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.”  Harry Truman An important question to consider is, “What kinds of people do I need and...
Courage to be Imperfect

Courage to be Imperfect

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging have the courage to be imperfect.” Brené Brown   Why are we the most addicted, medicated, overweight, and indebted society in history? Brene Brown, researcher, author and...
The Dysfunctional Bunch

The Dysfunctional Bunch

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Creating chaos provides excitement for some people, especially those who are uneasy with silence, those who distract themselves from their own problems by focusing outward, those who feel empty inside and need to fill themselves up...
Who Do You Think You Are?!

Who Do You Think You Are?!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinEver encounter those people you feel like asking, “Who died and made you God?” You resist supporting them, thinking and saying anything nice about or to them and even if you don’t generally gossip, they’re the ones you’re most...
Are We Compatible?

Are We Compatible?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhether in business or personal relationships, a worthwhile question to ponder is what constitutes compatibility? I went to a lecture by Dr. Denbo, a local therapist, who posed this question. Most of the crowd said things like,...
Soul Mates

Soul Mates

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinLike many of you, I’ve always wanted a soul mate – that wonderful partner who in their presence makes me feel connected and whole. The one who really gets me and who’s there for me through thick and thin, for better or worse, richer...
Longing for the Good Old Days?

Longing for the Good Old Days?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The good old days were never that good, believe me. The good new days are today, and better days are coming tomorrow. Our greatest songs are still unsung.”     Hubert Humphrey “Why can’t we go back to the good old days when people...
Can a Team-Hater Engage Employees?

Can a Team-Hater Engage Employees?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinby Julia Paulus (referencing Judy Ryan and LifeWork Systems) SBM, March 2010 I don’t like teams.  Back in school, I hated classes when we had to do group projects.  My group was always the one where a couple of people did nothing...
Wake up Tickled and Inspired!

Wake up Tickled and Inspired!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Are you ready to be wildly successful while supporting the same in others? if so… what are you waiting for?” Now’s the time to take these steps so you too awaken tickled and inspired… One of my most significant...
What Does it Take to Build Trust?

What Does it Take to Build Trust?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinI’ve delivered many team building workshops to corporations, schools and parent groups in which I focus on the behaviors that build trust and those that don’t. One behavior destructive to any team is gossip and part of my program is...
Better to Give Than Receive?

Better to Give Than Receive?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe often hear the phrase, “It’s better to give than receive” but is it true? The truth is, it just feels safer to give. Without equal ability to receive, a relationship is defined and limited by a certain amount of fear and...
Connect to Your Light!

Connect to Your Light!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRecently, I took a self-imposed retreat to discover how to more fully operate from freedom, courage and joy. As women, unless the light of love is flowing fully in our family or in our intimate relationships, we’re not fulfilled...
Keep The End In Mind

Keep The End In Mind

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinIn any situation in which you are uncertain, the first thing to consider very simply is, “What do I want to come of this? What is it for?” The clarification of the goal belongs at the beginning of any course of action because the...
Pause, Breathe and Check In

Pause, Breathe and Check In

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThich Nhat Hahn, a well- known author and Buddhist monk says we are reluctant to visit the home of our self because we are loath to face the pain, sadness and fear we might encounter there. It’s true those emotions are often...
Reality & Realist: An Idealist’s Perspective

Reality & Realist: An Idealist’s Perspective

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe give and receive negative behavior based in fear and doubt every day. That’s part of our humanness. Being an idealist in the face of this behavior doesn’t mean we act as if we’ve had a lobotomy or bury our heads...
No I Won’t, You Can’t Make Me!

No I Won’t, You Can’t Make Me!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinPower Struggles: Opportunities for Connection Yes, we all know what it is to be in a power struggle, whether it’s with a parent, child, spouse, lover, friend or co-worker. Power struggles are fraught with tension, anger and...
I Want.  What Will I Do?

I Want. What Will I Do?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhat do I want and what am I willing to do? These are powerful questions that make up the internal dialog of those who have embraced intrinsic motivation; the process of identifying and expressing what one most loves. These are...
What & Why Emotional Intelligence

What & Why Emotional Intelligence

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe hear a lot of buzz these days about the importance of emotional intelligence (EI).  What exactly is “emotional intelligence” and why do we need it? There are 4 main components: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness...
Commitment

Commitment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all...
Vision is Everything

Vision is Everything

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“By failing to prepare you are preparing to fail.” Benjamin Franklin It’s becoming more popular to talk about the power of our vision and the role it plays in creating extraordinary outcomes in our personal and professional...
Am I Selfish?

Am I Selfish?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinIt’s important to ask, “What do I feel and what do I want?” When we neglect to take time to consider our choices we often commit self-betrayal, which then results in betrayal of others… A friend recently called me for advice....
What You Look For You Will Find

What You Look For You Will Find

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOne of the great benefits and challenges of growing up is choice – consciously exercising it that is!  We are always choosing, we just don’t always ask ourselves what, how and why we are choosing.  Our focus makes all the...
Organized Chaos on Purpose

Organized Chaos on Purpose

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinAs a child deeply in love with nature, living on the edge of a park, and the 5th child of 6, I knew a lot about chaos, the beautiful, free, creative and exhilarating kind. Starting out free to explore, school at age 5 felt like...
Connection: From Chaos to Community

Connection: From Chaos to Community

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinConnection is to humans what water is to fish; a key to our existence and a cornerstone for our behavior.  We are social beings and from infancy we make decisions and set goals in response to our social framework.  In community, we...
Dismantling Bullying Systems

Dismantling Bullying Systems

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin(The story in this article may be an example involving students, but the message for the workplace is just as relevant) “As long as victims and bullies see themselves in diametrically opposed positions, (and they will if we...
Personal Power is Priceless

Personal Power is Priceless

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinFeeling powerfully influential is a heady experience and one of our basic minimum human requirements for living a life of meaning. Authentic personal power developed in service to our highest purpose occurs when we know our...