A Matter of Life and Death

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“Stress is a disconnection from the earth, a forgetting of the breath.”

Natalie Goldberg

How we live our lives and show up in our work truly is a matter of life and death. Suicides and deaths due to addictions are rising to epidemic levels, especially among many considered the most privileged, those with greatest access to opportunity and often the most successful; middle-aged white males. They are dying at record numbers, not from heart attacks and cancer but from suicide and drug and alcohol addiction, says recent news reports in New York Times and the Huffington Post. Their demise is a symptom of a bigger problem and begs the question: Why is this happening?

Adlerian psychology, (which drives much of our work at LifeWork Systems) is finally coming into it’s own and shines new understanding and hope on societal ills of all kinds, including poverty, racism, addiction, suicide and crime. Alfred Adler was born in 1870, and many suggest he was born at least a century too early. I agree. His psychology was less warmly received and acknowledged than other contemporaries of his time, such as Freud, Skinner and Jung because he clearly espoused equality in all forms, including between the sexes, the races, and relationships that spanned differences in economics, age, religion and more. He created practical applications for social equality and empowerment that were not accepted by the general public. Like the controversy over tobacco and pharmaceuticals today, there were people in his day and now, that had and have conflicts of interest that make Adler’s approach less palatable.

Above all, Adler emphasized personal responsibility, self-determination, and the negative conditions in the environment that contribute to interruptions in a person’s positive use of their autonomy. He identified specific factors that contribute or destroy a sense of social interest and healthy adaptation in the development of the human personality and what is needed in their place. Imagine if our cultural objective was for people to learn to be fully responsible for their actions, socially conscious for the good of all, and where they are empowered to make new decisions while effectively supported by others around them. Here are Adlerian tenets to consider as you run your business, your homes, schools, and communities:

  • People are more alike than different, even though they may behave very differently.
  • People need cooperation, collaboration and connection; they are biological necessities.
  • People behave in accordance with what they want, not who they are, overriding their consciences and fears.
  • All human beings are equal.
  • All people have potential for social interest, their own “innate predisposition” to care for others.
  • All attitudes are learned. The cure is reeducation.
  • People compensate for alleged as well as real inferiorities.
  • People are Social – with 4 core needs: To feel empowered, contributing, lovable, and connected.
  • People are Subjective – operating from private logic they developed, often when interpreting events poorly.
  • People are Self Determining (they author their reality based on their subjective private logic
  • People are Purposeful – all behavior is goal oriented. We use emotions and actions to achieve goals.
  • People are Holistic – even poor behavior is an attempt to correct a problem and heal.

The information Alfred Adler contributed concerning human consciousness, our development and orientation to the world, and our current obsession with outmoded methods of behavior management and motivational strategies provides much-needed information for new reforms in homes, schools and workplaces that are more effective and honoring to the human spirit. All we need do is look all around us to know it is a matter of life and death to positively construct a specific social framework and overall environment necessary to heal and rehabilitate our society and its members. Adlerian work provides us with far-reaching and profound direction, especially to reform discouraged individuals into productive, happy, and socially contributing members. This is what we are doing at LifeWork Systems and why people ready for change recognize that how they create their environments and how they behave with one another is key to survival in every way and for every person, no matter how apparently privileged.

As published in the column The Extraordinary Workplace in St. Louis Small Business Monthly, December 2015

Why People Hire LifeWork Systems

Business owners and executives, community leaders, parents, educators and individuals hire LifeWork Systems because they know that effective conditions and conversations make all the difference in building trusting relationships, achieving dreams, and creating solutions and innovations for our evolving world. When people are happy and responsible, emotionally and socially intelligent, confident, and appropriately seen, heard, and supported, they always exceed expectations. We help instill into every person common concepts, terms, tools, and processes that result in healthy, happy, caring and contributing individuals, teams and organizations. Our mission is to create a world in which all people love their lives!

We appreciate you being here on our website and encourage you to reach out to us directly at info@lifeworksystems.com or  314.239.4727. May something we offered in this article and website help you love YOUR life ~ because YOU matter!

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