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“You don’t have to “fix” anything about yourself. You don’t have to think a certain way, heal your past, clear your emotions, or embrace any specific belief system.”

Christopher M. Duncan, Author of You’re Not Broken

The greatest PROBLEM we have is a PROBLEM-orientation. While you may be facing struggles within your business, every struggle, in every setting, in every person, comes from limiting and fearful beliefs one holds about one’s self and others. In essence, when deep down inside we think, ‘I need to be better, something is wrong with me, I am deficient, flawed, and broken’ this is the root cause of every internal and external struggle.

Only people who realize they are enough NOW, are great NOW, have a life worth living and loving NOW, and are a gift NOW, can be such a gift going forward. Only from this mindset and realization, can people move from victim to creator, from powerless to powerful, from broken to whole. Why is this so important to realize? Because how we set up our systems at work, home, school, and in society will be directly impacted by whether we understand this or not and respond appropriately.  In order to bring forward the most innovative, confident, supportive, and lifegiving people, behaviors, ideas, and outcomes, our understanding of what’s behind every struggle informs how we develop and support one another, or fail to do so.

When we believe we are inferior, we (mostly unconsciously) seek to validate this in how we think about ourselves, life, and others. Then, we act this out, and set up structures to reinforce this by projecting our beliefs onto others, and allowing others to project them onto us. When we project fearful beliefs onto others, we dominate them thinking they can’t be trusted, bribe them thinking they will be selfish and lazy otherwise, judge them to get them to please us as their betters, and enable them as if they are incapable. Others who hold similar fearful, limited beliefs about us, visit the same upon us, creating dastardly discouragement.

Bottom line: when we believe in fearful and limiting ideas about ourselves and others, we create struggle. We struggle internally by getting stressed, discouraged, anxious, depressed, sick, self-absorbed, and detached from goals, dreams, hope, people and more. We struggle externally being defensive, righteous, opportunistic, cancelling and separating from people and causes, marginalizing, misbehaving, and at extremes, warring. Most people do not realize believing people are a PROBLEM needing to be fixed, IS the problem.

How does this realization help? When we remember that no one is broken, we remember that any behavior seeming to indicate otherwise is a cry for remembrance of one’s goodness and value of one’s power, essence, connection, and contribution. When we promote conversations and conditions that reinforce the magic and beauty in each person, we create an environment in which everyone gains courage, becomes caring, and creates more of what we and others love and value. This creates a positive spiral. Everyone gets committed to causing things from the best of who we are, not the fear of who we worry we might be! We stop struggling and start collaborating and innovating. Our energy is mobilized for good and also great!

When we start from the belief that every person is enough, is amazing, is full of beautiful power, potential and value, then we set up systems that reinforce this and provide each other the environment in which we all need to thrive, develop, lead and follow, with an eye towards excellence. We help each other remember we are creators, not victims, that we are powerful, not powerless, and that we need to be powerful and to guide our power in service to helping everyone remember the same and act from the same. If we look at every struggle we face, we will see that behind every struggle is the notion that we are broken or deficient or need to be better in some way. As we let this go, we become who we actually are which is AWESOME! Want to learn how to do this for yourself and others? This is the core work of LifeWork Systems. We would love to show you and those you lead how, and then hear you say our favorite refrain, “I had no idea things could be this amazing!”

Why People Hire LifeWork Systems

Business owners and executives, community leaders, parents, educators and individuals hire Lifework Systems because they know that effective conditions and conversations make all the difference in building trusting relationships, achieving dreams, and creating solutions and innovations for our evolving world. When people are happy and responsible, emotionally and socially intelligent, confident, and appropriately seen, heard, and supported, they always exceed expectations. We help instill into every person common concepts, terms, tools, and processes that result in healthy, happy, caring and contributing individuals, teams and organizations. Our mission is to create a world in which all people love their lives!

We appreciate you being here on our website and encourage you to reach out to us directly at info@lifeworksystems.com or  314.239.4727. May something we offered in this article and website help you love YOUR life ~ because YOU matter!

As published in the column The Extraordinary Workplace, in the St. Louis Small Business Monthly, January 2024