S.L.A.M. Say Less; Ask More

S.L.A.M. Say Less; Ask More

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.” Edith Wharton, a novelist Many people confuse leading people with managing people and caring for or loving people with worry or concern for...
Are You a Transactional or a Transformational Leader?

Are You a Transactional or a Transformational Leader?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish.” Sam Walton Transactional leadership or transactional management is the...
Powerful Leaders Create Other Leaders

Powerful Leaders Create Other Leaders

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” John Quincy Adams   “The single biggest way to impact an organization is to focus on leadership...
Are My People Responsible Even When No One’s Watching?

Are My People Responsible Even When No One’s Watching?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching.” S. Lewis   For years, I have been spitting in the soup of leaders using control models whether in homes, schools, community organizations or businesses....
Why Ditch Annual Performance Appraisals

Why Ditch Annual Performance Appraisals

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You can motivate by fear, and you can motivate by reward. But both of those methods are only temporary. The only lasting thing is self-motivation.” Homer Rice, a former American football player, coach, and college athletics...
Power Distance Index – Managing Relationships with Authority

Power Distance Index – Managing Relationships with Authority

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Some societies and religions have a tendency to expand the moral circle and to consider all humans as belonging to a single moral community.” Geert Hofstede, Social Psychologist I was re-reading Malcolm Gladwell’s book Outliers and...
The Key to Employee Engagement

The Key to Employee Engagement

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”                         ~Viktor Frankl In order to understand employee engagement,...
Spitting In The Soup

Spitting In The Soup

People are always motivated. It’s not anyone’s job to motivate others. People can control themselves. They can do what’s right and don’t need approval or shaming to do so. They don’t need to be enabled. The problem is we don’t have faith in people nor do we know how to effectively teach them to pick up responsibility for things that are theirs to own. When we learn to do so, others can become accountable, caring and fully engaged, making a positive difference in your business.

Engaging People In Life and Work

Engaging People In Life and Work

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Personal power is the ability to stand on your own two feet with a smile on your face in the middle of a universe that contains a million ways to crush you.” ― J.Z. Colby, Journey As a business leader, you don’t want to be one of...
Hispanic Heroes

Hispanic Heroes

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinNote: While this article was written for Autentico and focused on Hispanic leadership, the concepts within are applicable to all people. “You are not lucky to be here. The world needs your perspective. They are lucky to have you.”...
Is Love More Powerful Than Hate?

Is Love More Powerful Than Hate?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You are a child of God. You’re playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”                          Marianne Williamson I often...

Breaking the Addiction to Approval

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”...
Devil’s Advocate and Brutal Honesty

Devil’s Advocate and Brutal Honesty

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Never play the Devil’s Advocate. Your words could be the difference between success and failure in someone else.” Ingrid Weir Too often I hear people say, “I’m going to play Devil’s advocate now” to which I quickly reply, “Please...
The Courage To Be Disliked

The Courage To Be Disliked

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“When we least expect it, life sets up a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will...
Authentic Power

Authentic Power

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinDo you trust people to want and choose to be caring, and accountable without coercion? Do you make it your mission to develop their initiative or to control them instead? Consider today’s research quoted in an article...
When Winning Turns Into Losing

When Winning Turns Into Losing

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“How tricky is this ego that it would tempt us with a promise of something we already possess.” Jim Carrey My daughter, a practicing attorney, was recently offered a great job in a small boutique law firm and was enjoying the...
Embrace the Edge of the Unknown

Embrace the Edge of the Unknown

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”  Helen Keller For most business owners, living on the edge of...
Like PB&J, Freedom & Responsibility

Like PB&J, Freedom & Responsibility

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”   Sigmund Freud, Civilization and Its Discontents What would our world be like, (including our...
Become the Best Version of YOU!

Become the Best Version of YOU!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The actual processes of individuation—the conscious coming-to-terms with one’s own inner center (psychic nucleus) or Self—generally begins with a wounding of the personality and the suffering that accompanies it. This...
Loved AND Lovable

Loved AND Lovable

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Elizabeth Appell In my work, I help people take the risk to blossom. I tell business leaders, employees,...
Your Powerful Agreements

Your Powerful Agreements

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive –to be alive and express what we really are. Just being our self is the biggest fear of humans.” Don Miguel Ruiz  “There is no...
Motivation From The Inside Out

Motivation From The Inside Out

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Motivation is the art of getting people to do what you want them to because THEY want to do it.”   Dwight D. Eisenhower For centuries as a people, we have opted to use control measures such as command-and-control...
Transforming Discouragement

Transforming Discouragement

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Inferiority feelings rule the mental life and can be clearly recognized in the sense of deficiency and dissatisfaction, and in uninterrupted struggles both within individuals and humanity.” Alfred Adler, Psychiatrist, 1870-1937 The...
Keep Moving Forward Into Transformation

Keep Moving Forward Into Transformation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, keep moving forward.”Martin Luther King Imagine you commit to construct conditions in which...
Put YOUR Stake in the Ground

Put YOUR Stake in the Ground

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Every champion was once a contender that refused to give up.” Rocky Balboa Anything worth doing is worth doing completely. Yet, often we hold back commitment waiting for reassurance and commitment from others first. Doing this is...
Men & Women Leading Together

Men & Women Leading Together

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“In the end, what will hurt the most is not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends.”     Martin Luther King, Jr. I sent a TED talk to a male friend, entitled Violence Against Women; it’s a Men’s...
Cover Story: Me Too: Unwrapping Abuse Systems

Cover Story: Me Too: Unwrapping Abuse Systems

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“An insight the size of a mustard seed is powerful enough to bring down a mountain-sized illusion that may be holding our lives together. Truth strikes without mercy. We fear our intuitions because we fear the transformational...
Culture Trumps Strategy But Purpose Trumps Everything

Culture Trumps Strategy But Purpose Trumps Everything

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and...
Life Is Calling YOU!

Life Is Calling YOU!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You are braver than you think, more talented than you realize.” R. Bennett I watched a documentary on the pyramids recently and learned something that made me hopeful while confirming what I have already felt intuitively. Despite...
Top 10 Problems Facing Leaders

Top 10 Problems Facing Leaders

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinMore than ever, your people are key to the success of your business. When they are adaptable and courageous, they help you overcome problems quickly and competently. The following are some of the top problems often faced by business...
Do You Have Faith In People’s Goodness?

Do You Have Faith In People’s Goodness?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. Always pray to have eyes that see the best in people, and a heart that forgives the worst.” Martin Luther King, Jr   You may be surprised to...
Are you Strategically Aligned?

Are you Strategically Aligned?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau What many business owners...
Work/Life Balance

Work/Life Balance

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhat helps anyone, anytime, with almost anything? Figure out what you want and learn how to ask for it! From the movie, “How Do You Know?” Watch and learn how you would do this more often. Click on the image below...
Realize the Gravity of the Situation

Realize the Gravity of the Situation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinDan Price, CEO of Gravity Payments recently made a landmark decision to take a pay cut from $1M to $70K annually in order to pay each of his employees the same. His decision has sparked controversy. What Kind of Workplace...
Are You Free To Access Your Wisdom?

Are You Free To Access Your Wisdom?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinMost people are less able to access their wisdom than they know. And that’s because they are in survival mode more than they know. We experience various degrees of survival whenever we are triggered, reactive and experiencing our...
What is Social Interest? Does it Matter?

What is Social Interest? Does it Matter?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThink of people you know and admire a lot. What qualities do you like most about them? How do they make you feel? Chances are they are people who banish inferiority feelings in others and cause a positive experience instead. They...
Power Over? Power Under? Power Within!

Power Over? Power Under? Power Within!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.” Nelson Mandela   I was born and raised in Ferguson, MO and recent events there have...
What do you Intend to Cause?

What do you Intend to Cause?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” Albert Einstein   When I work with businesses, organizations, families, and individuals, people are usually confused by this question: What do you...
Could Your Head Be Buried In The Sand?

Could Your Head Be Buried In The Sand?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I can calculate the motion of heavenly bodies, but not the madness of people.” Isaac Newton     You’ve seen it happen to others and you may have already experienced it yourself: shocking setbacks in running your business....
Is Your Social Media Socially Intelligent?

Is Your Social Media Socially Intelligent?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinEnhance and Protect Your Brand and Reputation! Did you know, according to Jay Baer, marketing consultant and author, that: 42% of Americans who complain on social media expect a response within an hour? 24% expect a response within...
A Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves Together

A Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves Together

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinA Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves. Leaders determine the happiness of their workplace community. When you think of a happy community, you likely picture good team players that pitch in, are positive and manage themselves...
What You Protect, You Make Weak – Empowering vs. Enabling

What You Protect, You Make Weak – Empowering vs. Enabling

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRule of Empowerment: “Don’t do for others anything they can do for themselves.  Don’t say anything they already know.” Rudolf Dreikurs In order for people to live to highest potential, each has four core needs; to feel...
How to Transform Your Workplace

How to Transform Your Workplace

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” Albert Einstein   “Just as a snake sheds its skin, we must shed our past over and over again.” Gautama Buddha   A healthy organization is based on shared responsibility...
Rejuvenate Your Ho-Hum Meetings

Rejuvenate Your Ho-Hum Meetings

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Meeting people in a genuine way and feeling like there is a vital and meaningful connection going on makes me come alive.”       Sharon Salzberg, NY Times Best-Selling Author   Staff meetings provide your employees a unique...
Let’s Break a Rule: the 20/80 Rule

Let’s Break a Rule: the 20/80 Rule

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“We all have burdens and we need to learn to carry each other’s burdens, lighten each other’s load.”     Ann Romney Improve Your Employee AND Customer Satisfaction Your customer satisfaction is directly tied to your...
Are You a Leader Others Follow?

Are You a Leader Others Follow?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” John Quincy Adams   Your role is THE determining factor in whether you drive and sustain positive change  ...
1. Straightforwardness: Dare I Tell it Like It Is?

1. Straightforwardness: Dare I Tell it Like It Is?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe most important relationship to manage is with our self. A trustworthy person practices honesty, straightforwardness, respect, receptivity, recognition, keeping commitments, seeking excellence and disclosure, the eight values...
Kinds of People I Need

Kinds of People I Need

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.”  Harry Truman An important question to consider is, “What kinds of people do I need and...
Courage to be Imperfect

Courage to be Imperfect

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging have the courage to be imperfect.” Brené Brown   Why are we the most addicted, medicated, overweight, and indebted society in history? Brene Brown, researcher, author and...
Longing for the Good Old Days?

Longing for the Good Old Days?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The good old days were never that good, believe me. The good new days are today, and better days are coming tomorrow. Our greatest songs are still unsung.”     Hubert Humphrey “Why can’t we go back to the good old days when people...
Commitment

Commitment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all...
Dismantling Bullying Systems

Dismantling Bullying Systems

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin(The story in this article may be an example involving students, but the message for the workplace is just as relevant) “As long as victims and bullies see themselves in diametrically opposed positions, (and they will if we...
Personal Power is Priceless

Personal Power is Priceless

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinFeeling powerfully influential is a heady experience and one of our basic minimum human requirements for living a life of meaning. Authentic personal power developed in service to our highest purpose occurs when we know our...