Devil’s Advocate and Brutal Honesty

Devil’s Advocate and Brutal Honesty

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Never play the Devil’s Advocate. Your words could be the difference between success and failure in someone else.” Ingrid Weir Too often I hear people say, “I’m going to play Devil’s advocate now” to which I quickly reply, “Please...
Emotional Presence: It’s Good Business!

Emotional Presence: It’s Good Business!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The affairs of the heart are directly connected to the brain and it’s theheart’s natural intelligence that must be unfolded for the brain to operate with greater efficiency.”        ...
Commit to Personal Responsibility

Commit to Personal Responsibility

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid...
Accountability IS Happiness!

Accountability IS Happiness!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“While it doesn’t sound too exciting, I believe happiness is being 100% accountable for your life.”Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love I couldn’t agree more. Being accountable is taking 100% responsibility for...
Encouragement vs. Praise

Encouragement vs. Praise

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Humans need encouragement much like plants need water… We constantly encourage or discourage those around us and thereby contribute materially to their greater or lesser ability to function.”Rudolf Dreikurs, Author, Psychologist...
Like PB&J, Freedom & Responsibility

Like PB&J, Freedom & Responsibility

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”Sigmund Freud, Civilization and Its Discontents What would our world be like, (including our homes,...
Loved AND Lovable

Loved AND Lovable

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Elizabeth Appell In my work, I help people take the risk to blossom. I tell business leaders, employees,...
Choose Helpful AND Harmless

Choose Helpful AND Harmless

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“It always seems impossible until it is done”Nelson Mandela I often reflect on how many people are “checked out” at work, home, and school; they are suffering and barely surviving, rather than overcoming and thriving....
Become the Hero You’ve Been Waiting For

Become the Hero You’ve Been Waiting For

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever cost.”Arthur Ashe Too many people stubbornly believe it’s necessary...
Your Powerful Agreements

Your Powerful Agreements

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive –to be alive and express what we really are. Just being our self is the biggest fear of humans.”Don Miguel Ruiz “There is...
Cruelest Three Words: “Get Over It!”

Cruelest Three Words: “Get Over It!”

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The purpose of all relationships is to create a sacred context within which you can express the fullness of who you are.” Neale Donald Walsh In my work, the greatest setbacks and arrested development of people is...
Cover Story: Me Too: Unwrapping Abuse Systems

Cover Story: Me Too: Unwrapping Abuse Systems

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“An insight the size of a mustard seed is powerful enough to bring down a mountain-sized illusion that may be holding our lives together. Truth strikes without mercy. We fear our intuitions because we fear the transformational...
Are you Strategically Aligned?

Are you Strategically Aligned?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”Henry David Thoreau What many business owners...
Could Your Head Be Buried In The Sand?

Could Your Head Be Buried In The Sand?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinYou’ve seen it happen to others and you may have already experienced it yourself: shocking setbacks in running your business. They’re shocking because one day you come to work and an essential employee’s puts in his or her notice...
Is Your Social Media Socially Intelligent?

Is Your Social Media Socially Intelligent?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinEnhance and Protect Your Brand and Reputation! Did you know, according to Jay Baer, marketing consultant and author, that: 42% of Americans who complain on social media expect a response within an hour?24% expect a response within...
What You Protect, You Make Weak – Empowering vs. Enabling

What You Protect, You Make Weak – Empowering vs. Enabling

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRule of Empowerment: “Don’t do for others anything they can do for themselves.  Don’t say anything they already know.” In order for people to live to highest potential, each has four core needs; to feel empowered,...
3. Receptivity: Are You Receptive?

3. Receptivity: Are You Receptive?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinReceptivity is the ability to take in feedback from others, your life experiences and your results. Each of us wants to be known and feel important. We want to be witnessed and understood. We want to be received… There are 8...
4. Disclosure: Will You Show Us Who YOU Are?

4. Disclosure: Will You Show Us Who YOU Are?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinI teach eight values needed to build trust: honesty, straightforwardness, respect, receptivity, recognition, keeping commitments, seeking excellence and disclosure. Disclosure, the topic of this article, is a state of openness in...
7. Follow-Through: Do I Mean What I Say?

7. Follow-Through: Do I Mean What I Say?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinImagine you ask someone to do something and they agree. You count on it, and then come to find they didn’t do it. How are you feeling? Chances are you feel frustrated and disappointed. You also lose trust in this person. One of...
Reasons We Gossip & What To Do Instead

Reasons We Gossip & What To Do Instead

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinMost people agree gossip’s not healthy or helpful and that it’s everywhere! When I work with clients in workplaces, schools and homes, I invite them to end gossip in order to build trust and strengthen teamwork. I introduce them to...
Why Are You So Mean?

Why Are You So Mean?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhat Did I Do To Deserve that?! You know those times when out of the blue, someone does or says something that shocks and hurts you? In that moment, you’re encountering the goal of revenge, a mistaken goal of misbehavior in which a...
How to Emotionally Handle Terminations

How to Emotionally Handle Terminations

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinby Julia Paulus (referencing Judy Ryan and LifeWork Systems) SBM, March 2010 Getting fired is obviously difficult for an employee. But firing someone is also hard for owners and managers – probably one of the hardest things they...
Game-Changing Appreciative Inquiry

Game-Changing Appreciative Inquiry

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinImagine two scenarios both involving a couple struggling in their relationship and seeking marriage counseling. In the first instance, the couple is asked questions centering on their problems, including their origin and possible...
What Does it Take to Build Trust?

What Does it Take to Build Trust?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinI’ve delivered many team building workshops to corporations, schools and parent groups in which I focus on the behaviors that build trust and those that don’t. One behavior destructive to any team is gossip and part of my program is...
Better to Give Than Receive?

Better to Give Than Receive?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe often hear the phrase, “It’s better to give than receive” but is it true? The truth is, it just feels safer to give. Without equal ability to receive, a relationship is defined and limited by a certain amount of fear and...
Connect to Your Light!

Connect to Your Light!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRecently, I took a self-imposed retreat to discover how to more fully operate from freedom, courage and joy. As women, unless the light of love is flowing fully in our family or in our intimate relationships, we’re not fulfilled...
Shift Enemies To Friends

Shift Enemies To Friends

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinHave you ever met someone you felt completely in sync with? Entrainment is a term used to express how the human body assumes a sympathetic response to stimuli much the way scientists have discovered that two heart cells put together...
Pause, Breathe and Check In

Pause, Breathe and Check In

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThich Nhat Hahn, a well- known author and Buddhist monk says we are reluctant to visit the home of our self because we are loath to face the pain, sadness and fear we might encounter there. It’s true those emotions are often...
The Biggest Loser

The Biggest Loser

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe show “The Biggest Loser” is very popular. In it we see men and women who are determined to make monumental changes and are willing to embrace new habits and significant personal discomfort to do so. When I recently...
No I Won’t, You Can’t Make Me!

No I Won’t, You Can’t Make Me!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinPower Struggles: Opportunities for Connection Yes, we all know what it is to be in a power struggle, whether it’s with a parent, child, spouse, lover, friend or co-worker. Power struggles are fraught with tension, anger...
Did You Hear What I Meant to Say?

Did You Hear What I Meant to Say?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinHave you ever thought you had an agreement or understanding with someone only to find you didn’t? You thought you were clear and direct in a request, and ended up disappointed. Or have you responded to a request, only to find...