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Unresolved Psychological Contracts

Unresolved Psychological Contracts

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If others tell us something we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate.” ― Miguel Ruiz, Author, The Four Agreements   A...
Complicity

Complicity

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people, but the silence over that by the good people.” Martin Luther King, Jr.   Someone cautioned me recently that I would offend people because I brought...
Manipulation

Manipulation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Arriving at the destination is more than just having the map.” Judy Ryan, CEO LifeWork Systems   Manipulation has gotten a bad rap. We often feel insulted and become defensive when we or someone we love is described as...
A Fool with a Tool is Still a Fool

A Fool with a Tool is Still a Fool

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A fool with a tool is still a fool.” Grady Booch, American Software Engineer   In any situation involving significant transformation, the most important change process is the one within, one’s mindset. In my 12-month culture...
Your Greatest Barrier Is Your Pain Tolerance

Your Greatest Barrier Is Your Pain Tolerance

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“…Sometimes I suspect that what had really happened was that we became more resigned, more cynical, raised our pain thresholds as we lowered our expectations. All in all, we settled for less.” Emma Donoghue, Playwright   It’s...
Can Love Be Here Too?

Can Love Be Here Too?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” —Brené Brown As I work with clients on their personal and professional development or help friends and family who are working...
Wake Up and Question Everything

Wake Up and Question Everything

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Questions wake people up. They prompt new ideas. They show people new places, new ways of doing things.” ~ Michael Marquardt When you were a child, you had a sense of wonder and thought nothing of asking lots of...
Seize Opportunities Within the Great Resignation

Seize Opportunities Within the Great Resignation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The true test of character is to live win-win even when promoted to positions where win-lose is possible.” ― Orrin Woodward   If you search google, you’ll find The Great Resignation is defined as an informal name for the...
Stop Protecting Your Reputation

Stop Protecting Your Reputation

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The strongest oak tree of the forest is not the one protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It’s the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and...
Episode 11 – Living the Life You Want

Episode 11 – Living the Life You Want

In my work with clients, I often hear people say, “how can I motivate this person to do what they’re supposed to? They’re lazy. They’re unmotivated.” The truth is people are always motivated. They’re just not always motivated to do what YOU want them to do.
In this episode, Judy and her guest, Tara Gregor, founder and CEO of Breakwell, a resource hub for holistic wellness discuss a very different and highly effective approach to motivation. Old models and external motivation tactics simply don’t work anymore. So, if those don’t work, what does? Tune in to this podcast to learn a new approach.

Episode 10 – Leaders Driving Culture Change

Episode 10 – Leaders Driving Culture Change

In my work with clients, I often hear people say, “how can I motivate this person to do what they’re supposed to? They’re lazy. They’re unmotivated.” The truth is people are always motivated. They’re just not always motivated to do what YOU want them to do.
In this episode, Judy and her guest, Tara Gregor, founder and CEO of Breakwell, a resource hub for holistic wellness discuss a very different and highly effective approach to motivation. Old models and external motivation tactics simply don’t work anymore. So, if those don’t work, what does? Tune in to this podcast to learn a new approach.

The Danger in Larger-Than-Life Heroes

The Danger in Larger-Than-Life Heroes

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The danger in larger-than-life heroes is that many get affixed to their perceived status and achievements to the cost of themselves and others.” Judy Ryan, CEO LifeWork Systems I have met leaders who have accomplished great things....
Is Your Free Will Actually Free?

Is Your Free Will Actually Free?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Free will, though it makes evil possible, is also the only thing that makes possible any love or goodness or joy worth having.” ~ C.S. Lewis Many people are aware of choices they make. What they don’t realize is that unconscious...
Are Your People High Performing? 

Are Your People High Performing? 

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence wins championships.” Michael Jordan “You can motivate by fear, and you can motivate by reward. But both those methods are only temporary. The only lasting thing is self-motivation.”...
Use of Power

Use of Power

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The day the power of love overrules the love of power, the world will know peace.” ― Mahatma Gandhi   “Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” ― Abraham Lincoln   I...
Do You Have a Powerful, Positive and Helpful Ego?

Do You Have a Powerful, Positive and Helpful Ego?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If being an egomaniac means I believe in what I do and, in my art or music, then in that respect you can call me that… I believe in what I do, and I’ll say it.” John Lennon   The notion of ego is often used to describe the...
Powerful Leaders Create Other Leaders

Powerful Leaders Create Other Leaders

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” John Quincy Adams   “The single biggest way to impact an organization is to focus on leadership...
When Everything Falls to Pieces

When Everything Falls to Pieces

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free   Without a stable foundation, all your hard work and dreams will crumble. Do you have the foundation...
Episode 4 – How Can I Motivate Them?

Episode 4 – How Can I Motivate Them?

In my work with clients, I often hear people say, “how can I motivate this person to do what they’re supposed to? They’re lazy. They’re unmotivated.” The truth is people are always motivated. They’re just not always motivated to do what YOU want them to do.
In this episode, Judy and her guest, Tara Gregor, founder and CEO of Breakwell, a resource hub for holistic wellness discuss a very different and highly effective approach to motivation. Old models and external motivation tactics simply don’t work anymore. So, if those don’t work, what does? Tune in to this podcast to learn a new approach.

The Key to Employee Engagement

The Key to Employee Engagement

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”                         ~Viktor Frankl In order to understand employee engagement,...
Episode 1- Spitting in the Soup

Episode 1- Spitting in the Soup

This topic is designed to challenge basic norms we’ve held sacrosanct for centuries. These are the four control models described in this episode as widely promoted means to cultivate good citizenship in homes, schools, churches, and workplaces; really everywhere. This episode helps listeners to recognize these as the impediments they are and that they need to be dismantled and replaced with new models.

Episode 1- Spitting in the Soup

Spitting In The Soup

People are always motivated. It’s not anyone’s job to motivate others. People can control themselves. They can do what’s right and don’t need approval or shaming to do so. They don’t need to be enabled. The problem is we don’t have faith in people nor do we know how to effectively teach them to pick up responsibility for things that are theirs to own. When we learn to do so, others can become accountable, caring and fully engaged, making a positive difference in your business.

It’s Never Too Late…To Create A Life You Love

It’s Never Too Late…To Create A Life You Love

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“It is not always sunshine that splits the seed cleaving the armor, releasing the shoot. Darkness makes the heart’s case fragile. Pain breaks it open. Courage teases out the leaves and life unfurls and expands, thrusting upwards...
Why Transparency CAN Become a Bloodbath

Why Transparency CAN Become a Bloodbath

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Killers aren’t always assassins. Sometimes, they don’t even have blood on their hands.”   ~ Ruta Sepetys, Author I once knew a school teacher who quit her job teaching 8th graders (which she loved) to work for my...
Discarding the Monster Box

Discarding the Monster Box

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A man who picks up a cat by its tail will learn a lesson he can learn no other way.”     ~ Mark Twain Your business will improve if you remember some important facts. One is that we are all more alike than different. The other is...
Is Love More Powerful Than Hate?

Is Love More Powerful Than Hate?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You are a child of God. You’re playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”                          Marianne Williamson I often...
Agility and Resiliency – A Formula for Success

Agility and Resiliency – A Formula for Success

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The game of business used to be like football: size mattered. Then it changed to basketball: speed and agility. Today business is more like chess: customer priorities change continually, and the signals given by these changes...
Resilience and Agility: The Dynamic Duo for The New World of Work

Resilience and Agility: The Dynamic Duo for The New World of Work

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Most notably, this study shows that high agility is associated with much higher levels of depression and anxiety risk when combined with low resilience. In essence, agility produces negative mental health consequences when...
Devil’s Advocate and Brutal Honesty

Devil’s Advocate and Brutal Honesty

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Never play the Devil’s Advocate. Your words could be the difference between success and failure in someone else.”  Ingrid Weir Too often I hear people say, “I’m going to play Devil’s advocate now” to which I quickly reply, “Please...
The Rise of The Social Enterprise

The Rise of The Social Enterprise

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinTHE SYMPHONIC C-SUITE: TEAMS LEADING TEAMS Senior leaders can’t afford to work in silos in today’s complex, dynamic environment. The goal is to act as a symphony of experts playing in harmony—instead of a cacophony of experts who...
Episode 4 – How Can I Motivate Them?

How Can I Motivate Them?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”      John Quincy Adams In my work with clients, I often hear, “How can I motivate this person to do what they’re...
Authentic Power

Authentic Power

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinDo you trust people to want and choose to be caring, and accountable without coercion? Do you make it your mission to develop their initiative or to control them instead? Consider today’s research quoted in an article entitled The...
When Winning Turns Into Losing

When Winning Turns Into Losing

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“How tricky is this ego that it would tempt us with a promise of something we already possess.” Jim Carrey My daughter, a practicing attorney, was recently offered a great job in a small boutique law firm and was enjoying the...
Be THE Decisive Element

Be THE Decisive Element

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or...
Commit to Personal Responsibility

Commit to Personal Responsibility

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid...
Disengagement is Betrayal

Disengagement is Betrayal

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,...
Encouragement vs. Praise

Encouragement vs. Praise

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Humans need encouragement much like plants need water… We constantly encourage or discourage those around us and thereby contribute materially to their greater or lesser ability to function.” Rudolf Dreikurs, Author, Psychologist...
Get More Selfish!

Get More Selfish!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Whether you believe it a moral imperative or enlightened self-interest, securing the conditions that will lead to a healthy, prosperous future for everyone is a goal I believe we all share.” Bill Gates We are often...
Motivation From The Inside Out

Motivation From The Inside Out

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Motivation is the art of getting people to do what you want them to because THEY want to do it.”   Dwight D. Eisenhower For centuries as a people, we have opted to use control measures such as command-and-control...
Millennials: Canaries In The Coal Mine

Millennials: Canaries In The Coal Mine

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Age is no better, hardly so well, qualified for an instructor as youth, for it has not profited so much as it has lost.” Henry David Thoreau, Walden & Civil Disobedience A canary in the coal mine refers to a time when canaries...
The Courage To Change & Grow

The Courage To Change & Grow

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“An unexamined life is not worth living” Plato Here it is another New Year’s Day! It’s a time to reflect, re-set, and re-create. We consider our health, wealth, relationships, spirituality, and our purpose and...
Culture Trumps Strategy But Purpose Trumps Everything

Culture Trumps Strategy But Purpose Trumps Everything

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and...
Choose You

Choose You

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Most men (and women) lead lives of quiet desperation and die with their song still inside them.” Henry David Thoreau It’s difficult for many people, especially women, to choose themselves in their own lives and then they lead lives...
Who Says You’re Not Like The Dalai Lama!?

Who Says You’re Not Like The Dalai Lama!?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate… Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”Nelson Mandela How is it that we often forget our true glorious nature and cling to the weakest view of our self instead? It...
Life Is Calling YOU!

Life Is Calling YOU!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You are braver than you think, more talented than you realize.” R. Bennett I watched a documentary on the pyramids recently and learned something that made me hopeful while confirming what I have already felt intuitively. Despite...
“I’m Sorry You Feel That Way” – “I Never Intended That…”

“I’m Sorry You Feel That Way” – “I Never Intended That…”

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you own the story you get to write the ending.” Brene Brown   “We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.” George Bernard Shaw Why It’s Never Helpful to Say, “I’m Sorry...
Activate All Super Powers

Activate All Super Powers

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“I AM a sacred cocoon, a place to dismantle what no longer serves, and allow new, bright, and free possibilities to emerge. I am safe, supported and healed into the best version of myself and available to provide the same for...
What Does “I’m Right; You’re Wrong” Cost?

What Does “I’m Right; You’re Wrong” Cost?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Remember, we see the world not as it is but as we are. Most of us see through the eyes of our fears and our limiting beliefs and our false assumptions.” Robin S. Sharma “Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask...
Do You (Really) Believe in Win/Win?

Do You (Really) Believe in Win/Win?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Lead the life that will make you kindly and friendly to everyone, and you will be surprised what a happy life you will lead.” Charles M. Schwab When most people are asked if they believe in and want win/win, they answer with the...
Don’t Hold Up Progress

Don’t Hold Up Progress

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Success on any major scale requires you to accept responsibility . . .  In the final analysis, the one quality that all successful people have is the ability to take on responsibility.” Michael Korda...
Do You Have Faith In People’s Goodness?

Do You Have Faith In People’s Goodness?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. Always pray to have eyes that see the best in people, and a heart that forgives the worst.” Martin Luther King, Jr   You may be surprised to...
Episode 2 – Are You a Puppet Or Powerful?

Do You Control or Develop Your Staff?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.” Henry Cloud Your greatest asset is a team of...
Teach them to Fish

Teach them to Fish

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Maimonides The Dilemma Many systems and strategies of the past are no longer effective. Schools were originally designed to...
It Feels Real: Am I Being Punished?

It Feels Real: Am I Being Punished?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Children are great observers but poor interpreters.” Rudolf Dreikurs, parent educator, author and psychologist Why this feeling?When we were children, one of the ways we could create the illusion life was not careening out of...
Help People Conceive, Believe, & Achieve

Help People Conceive, Believe, & Achieve

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe difference between an idea and a commitment is the difference between knowing about a new tool and using it in your everyday life as a new habit and way of operating. The greatest challenge many of my clients encounter as they...
Conducting Business From The Heart

Conducting Business From The Heart

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhen I speak of heart in this article, I am referring specifically to our heart’s purpose, inspired from within, deeply stirring us, leading us to take actions that matter most to us. In my work with clients, I find that many don’t...
Are You Personally Responsible?

Are You Personally Responsible?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinYou may wonder: what criterion determines if a person is personally responsible? Personal responsibility IS synonymous with authentic freedom, empowerment, creativity, accountability, and alignment. It always brings about positive...
What is Social Interest? Does it Matter?

What is Social Interest? Does it Matter?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThink of people you know and admire a lot. What qualities do you like most about them? How do they make you feel? Chances are they are people who banish inferiority feelings in others and cause a positive experience instead. They...
Are You Feeling Merry or Blocking Your Joy?

Are You Feeling Merry or Blocking Your Joy?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Joy is the most vulnerable emotion we experience. In fact, addiction research shows us that an intensely positive experience is as likely to cause relapse as an intensely painful experience.”Brene Brown, Author and...
Are you Running Your Business from Fear or Freedom?

Are you Running Your Business from Fear or Freedom?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Live your life like you use your GPS. Set a course for your destination, make sure your vehicle is in good shape, trust you’ll eventually arrive and be content with the next instruction without knowing what’s after.” Judy Ryan, CEO...
Building Caring Connections

Building Caring Connections

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.”   Theodore Roosevelt “Caring about others, running the risk of feeling, and leaving an impact on people, brings happiness.”    Harold Kushner   I frequently...
What do you Intend to Cause?

What do you Intend to Cause?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” Albert Einstein   When I work with businesses, organizations, families, and individuals, people are usually confused by this question: What do you...
A Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves Together

A Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves Together

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinA Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves. Leaders determine the happiness of their workplace community. When you think of a happy community, you likely picture good team players that pitch in, are positive and manage themselves...
What You Protect, You Make Weak – Empowering vs. Enabling

What You Protect, You Make Weak – Empowering vs. Enabling

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRule of Empowerment: “Don’t do for others anything they can do for themselves.  Don’t say anything they already know.” Rudolf Dreikurs In order for people to live to highest potential, each has four core needs; to feel...
Rejuvenate Your Ho-Hum Meetings

Rejuvenate Your Ho-Hum Meetings

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Meeting people in a genuine way and feeling like there is a vital and meaningful connection going on makes me come alive.”       Sharon Salzberg, NY Times Best-Selling Author   Staff meetings provide your employees a unique...
You’re Not The Boss of Me!

You’re Not The Boss of Me!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Trying to win a power struggle is like trying to win a nuclear war. You may achieve your goal, but not without catastrophic casualties on both sides.” Jamie Raser, Author of Raising Children You Can Live With   A man I know...
Key to Your Joy: Honor Your Sensitivity

Key to Your Joy: Honor Your Sensitivity

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness…Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and...
Creating a Life YOU Love

Creating a Life YOU Love

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Selfishness is a virtue, unless you think it must come at the expense of others. And why would anyone think that? Oh yeah, that’s what all the people who don’t “get it” told you.”  Mike Dooley  ...
Part 1 of 5 – Gathering Requirements

Part 1 of 5 – Gathering Requirements

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinYou successfully started your business and now it’s growing. You may be wondering, “Are we as productive as we could be despite the fact we’re hiring more people?” It’s not enough to run and grow your business.  Your ability to...
Get Along. Get Inspired. Get Results.

Get Along. Get Inspired. Get Results.

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Before one can hit a grand-slam home run, it first requires singles, doubles or triples.” Unknown   Every business owner sets up their organization with high hopes and a dream of making a difference, yet all the great ideas...
Extraordinary People & Results

Extraordinary People & Results

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“It is not the ultimate achievement that makes you extraordinary; it is what you become on the way to that achievement that people celebrate. Saidi Mdala, Author of Know What Matters Are you experiencing poor relationships? Seeing...
Your Blueprint for Constructing Success

Your Blueprint for Constructing Success

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”                                                ...
From Compliance to Commitment

From Compliance to Commitment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“You get the best efforts from others not by lighting a fire beneath them, but by building a fire within.”   -Bob Nelson Compliance People used to think of the workplace in terms of the activities and behaviors that...
5. Respect: Valuing Unconditionally

5. Respect: Valuing Unconditionally

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRespect is making the needs, perspectives and feelings of others as important as your own. A win/lose dynamic has gone on for many years and still continues today. Evidence of this shows up in our relationships between unions and...
6. Recognition: Why is Recognition Important To Trust?

6. Recognition: Why is Recognition Important To Trust?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”...
8. Seeking Excellence: Are You All You Can Be?

8. Seeking Excellence: Are You All You Can Be?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives – choice, not chance, determines your destiny.”     ...
Why Are You Here?

Why Are You Here?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Believe in your heart that you’re meant to live a life full of passion, purpose, magic and miracles.” Roy T. Bennett, Author, The Light in the Heart   You’re challenged by a co-worker, client, friend or child; you’re up...
How Do I Deal With That Annoying Person?

How Do I Deal With That Annoying Person?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“There is nothing so annoying as having two people talking when you’re busy interrupting.” Mark Twain   You know that person who cracks a joke at an inopportune moment? Taps their pen on the conference room desk? Stands...
Why Are You So Mean?

Why Are You So Mean?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“People are not mean to us because they don’t like us, but because they don’t like themselves.” Jodi Aman What Did I Do To Deserve that?! You know those times when out of the blue, someone does or says something that shocks and...
Kinds of People I Need

Kinds of People I Need

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.”  Harry Truman An important question to consider is, “What kinds of people do I need and...
Courage to be Imperfect

Courage to be Imperfect

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging have the courage to be imperfect.” Brené Brown   Why are we the most addicted, medicated, overweight, and indebted society in history? Brene Brown, researcher, author and...
Who Do You Think You Are?!

Who Do You Think You Are?!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinEver encounter those people you feel like asking, “Who died and made you God?” You resist supporting them, thinking and saying anything nice about or to them and even if you don’t generally gossip, they’re the ones you’re most...
Longing for the Good Old Days?

Longing for the Good Old Days?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The good old days were never that good, believe me. The good new days are today, and better days are coming tomorrow. Our greatest songs are still unsung.”     Hubert Humphrey “Why can’t we go back to the good old days when people...
How do I Make All-Stars?

How do I Make All-Stars?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinby Julia Paulus (referencing Judy Ryan and LifeWork Systems) SBM, March 2010 My biggest all-star employee just left the company to work for a competitor.  He was efficient, virtually mistake-free and energetic.  When he...
Can a Team-Hater Engage Employees?

Can a Team-Hater Engage Employees?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinby Julia Paulus (referencing Judy Ryan and LifeWork Systems) SBM, March 2010 I don’t like teams.  Back in school, I hated classes when we had to do group projects.  My group was always the one where a couple of people did nothing...
Wake up Tickled and Inspired!

Wake up Tickled and Inspired!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Are you ready to be wildly successful while supporting the same in others? if so… what are you waiting for?” Now’s the time to take these steps so you too awaken tickled and inspired… One of my most significant...
Game-Changing Appreciative Inquiry

Game-Changing Appreciative Inquiry

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinImagine two scenarios both involving a couple struggling in their relationship and seeking marriage counseling. In the first instance, the couple is asked questions centering on their problems, including their origin and possible...
What Does it Take to Build Trust?

What Does it Take to Build Trust?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinI’ve delivered many team building workshops to corporations, schools and parent groups in which I focus on the behaviors that build trust and those that don’t. One behavior destructive to any team is gossip and part of my program is...
Better to Give Than Receive?

Better to Give Than Receive?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe often hear the phrase, “It’s better to give than receive” but is it true? The truth is, it just feels safer to give. Without equal ability to receive, a relationship is defined and limited by a certain amount of fear and...
Connect to Your Light!

Connect to Your Light!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRecently, I took a self-imposed retreat to discover how to more fully operate from freedom, courage and joy. As women, unless the light of love is flowing fully in our family or in our intimate relationships, we’re not fulfilled...
Keep The End In Mind

Keep The End In Mind

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinIn any situation in which you are uncertain, the first thing to consider very simply is, “What do I want to come of this? What is it for?” The clarification of the goal belongs at the beginning of any course of action because the...
Pause, Breathe and Check In

Pause, Breathe and Check In

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThich Nhat Hahn, a well- known author and Buddhist monk says we are reluctant to visit the home of our self because we are loath to face the pain, sadness and fear we might encounter there. It’s true those emotions are often...
The Biggest Loser

The Biggest Loser

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe show “The Biggest Loser” is very popular. In it we see men and women who are determined to make monumental changes and are willing to embrace new habits and significant personal discomfort to do so. When I recently...
Reality & Realist: An Idealist’s Perspective

Reality & Realist: An Idealist’s Perspective

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe give and receive negative behavior based in fear and doubt every day. That’s part of our humanness. Being an idealist in the face of this behavior doesn’t mean we act as if we’ve had a lobotomy or bury our heads...
No I Won’t, You Can’t Make Me!

No I Won’t, You Can’t Make Me!

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinPower Struggles: Opportunities for Connection Yes, we all know what it is to be in a power struggle, whether it’s with a parent, child, spouse, lover, friend or co-worker. Power struggles are fraught with tension, anger and...
I Want.  What Will I Do?

I Want. What Will I Do?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhat do I want and what am I willing to do? These are powerful questions that make up the internal dialog of those who have embraced intrinsic motivation; the process of identifying and expressing what one most loves. These are...
What & Why Emotional Intelligence

What & Why Emotional Intelligence

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe hear a lot of buzz these days about the importance of emotional intelligence (EI).  What exactly is “emotional intelligence” and why do we need it? There are 4 main components: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness...
Commitment

Commitment

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all...
Vision is Everything

Vision is Everything

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“By failing to prepare you are preparing to fail.” Benjamin Franklin It’s becoming more popular to talk about the power of our vision and the role it plays in creating extraordinary outcomes in our personal and professional...
Am I Selfish?

Am I Selfish?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinIt’s important to ask, “What do I feel and what do I want?” When we neglect to take time to consider our choices we often commit self-betrayal, which then results in betrayal of others… A friend recently called me for advice....
What You Look For You Will Find

What You Look For You Will Find

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOne of the great benefits and challenges of growing up is choice – consciously exercising it that is!  We are always choosing, we just don’t always ask ourselves what, how and why we are choosing.  Our focus makes all the...
Organized Chaos on Purpose

Organized Chaos on Purpose

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinAs a child deeply in love with nature, living on the edge of a park, and the 5th child of 6, I knew a lot about chaos, the beautiful, free, creative and exhilarating kind. Starting out free to explore, school at age 5 felt like...
Did You Hear What I Meant to Say?

Did You Hear What I Meant to Say?

Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinHave you ever thought you had an agreement or understanding with someone only to find you didn’t? You thought you were clear and direct in a request, and ended up disappointed. Or have you responded to a request, only to find...