Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“In general, only a child who feels safe dares to grow forward healthily. His safety needs must be gratified. He can’t be pushed ahead, because the ungratified safety needs will remain forever underground, always calling for...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Do the best that you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”Maya Angelou All one has to do is turn on the news or get on social media to see that honoring oneself and one another and treating oneself and...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinDon’t blame a clown for acting like a clown. Ask yourself why you keep going to the circus. ~ Unknown Sometimes we keep going to the circus because we don’t realize that’s where we are. Someone recently asked, “what...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinOur Basic Social Needs: Belonging and Significance Beyond basic survival, we all want to experience a healthy sense of belonging and significance through our four core social needs: to feel powerful, lovable, connected and...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“When we least expect it, life sets up a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The affairs of the heart are directly connected to the brain and it’s theheart’s natural intelligence that must be unfolded for the brain to operate with greater efficiency.” ...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever cost.”Arthur Ashe Too many people stubbornly believe it’s necessary...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive –to be alive and express what we really are. Just being our self is the biggest fear of humans.”Don Miguel Ruiz “There is...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“To power up the whole system involves learning to bring the heart and mind into a creative joint venture. Heart intelligence supplies balanced strength and allows more of one’s individual spirit — the passionate...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The purpose of all relationships is to create a sacred context within which you can express the fullness of who you are.” Neale Donald Walsh In my work, the greatest setbacks and arrested development of people is...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.”― Plato“The mind is not a...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“The most exciting breakthroughs of the twenty-first century will not occur because of technology, but because of an expanding concept of what it means to be human.”John Naisbitt Whether you welcome or resist it, change...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinMost organizations don’t fall apart as a result of one big blow. Most relationships don’t end because of one grand argument. Most lives don’t fall to pieces due to one sad event. No, I suggest to you that sustained failure happens...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Remember, we see the world not as it is but as we are. Most of us see through the eyes of our fears and our limiting beliefs and our false assumptions.” Robin S. Sharma “Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhether we want to associate love with our businesses or not, the presence of love or the lack of it, plays a powerful role in our ROI. It affects our profitability, health, employee engagement, teamwork, customer satisfaction; all...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinEveryone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always. Unknown What if you knew every reaction (and even what you fear are over-reactions) you experience is based on legitimate reasons and deserves caring...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedin“Lead the life that will make you kindly and friendly to everyone, and you will be surprised what a happy life you will lead.” Charles M. Schwab When most people are asked if they believe in and want win/win, they answer with the...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhen Beethoven looked at the piano keys, he saw a symphony. When Michael Jordan saw a basketball, he saw greatness. When I meet people, I see powerful sublime human systems. I see the unseen, the narrative that is more powerful than...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhen I speak of heart in this article, I am referring specifically to our heart’s purpose, inspired from within, deeply stirring us, leading us to take actions that matter most to us. In my work with clients, I find that many don’t...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe following are just some of my favorite books of all time. I highly recommend these and that you make reading new books a part of your established routine. There is nothing more helpful than remaining a life-long learner so...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinI was born and raised in Ferguson, MO and recent events there have provided an opportunity to write on beliefs about power. Each of us might ask, “In any given moment, am I exercising power-over, power-under or...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinI frequently meet people who want to experience caring relationships and while the majority of them are well intentioned and trying to make things work; they are also baffled as to how to overcome challenges and communicate...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinA Happy Community Works, Plays, & Serves. Leaders determine the happiness of their workplace community. When you think of a happy community, you likely picture good team players that pitch in, are positive and manage themselves...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinA man I know refuses to wear his safety belt because he doesn’t want to be controlled by the government. I know many such people. He admits it’s insane. And I recognize his mindset; like me, he’s often living from reaction to...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhether male or female, it’s time to reclaim and honor your sensitivity. Most of us were raised to repress, suppress and hide our sensitivity. As infants and children we cried, raged, trembled in fear, and laughed with...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinEvery business owner sets up their organization with high hopes and a dream of making a difference, yet all the great ideas and intentions to provide quality products and services do not guarantee favorable outcomes. Three things...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinHow do you KNOW it’s Time to Transform Your Workplace? You may be thinking of your challenges and goals and know intuitively the time for change is now. You want a workplace where instead of finger-pointing, mediocrity or passive...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinYou know that person who cracks a joke at an inopportune moment? Taps their pen on the conference room desk? Stands at your door while you’re on the phone or otherwise annoys and irritates you? I was mentoring a Manager named Maggie...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinIn a perfect world, employees would arrive at work on time and perform exactly what is in their job description. Well, maybe they would do just above what is expected in their job description. And, on occasion, perform some...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWhether in business or personal relationships, a worthwhile question to ponder is what constitutes compatibility? I went to a lecture by Dr. Denbo, a local therapist, who posed this question. Most of the crowd said things like,...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinLike many of you, I’ve always wanted a soul mate – that wonderful partner who in their presence makes me feel connected and whole. The one who really gets me and who’s there for me through thick and thin, for better or worse, richer...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinby Julia Paulus (referencing Judy Ryan and LifeWork Systems) SBM, March 2010 Getting fired is obviously difficult for an employee. But firing someone is also hard for owners and managers – probably one of the hardest things they...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinby Julia Paulus (referencing Judy Ryan and LifeWork Systems) SBM, March 2010 I don’t like teams. Back in school, I hated classes when we had to do group projects. My group was always the one where a couple of people did...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinI’ve delivered many team building workshops to corporations, schools and parent groups in which I focus on the behaviors that build trust and those that don’t. One behavior destructive to any team is gossip and part of my program is...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe often hear the phrase, “It’s better to give than receive” but is it true? The truth is, it just feels safer to give. Without equal ability to receive, a relationship is defined and limited by a certain amount of fear and...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinRecently, I took a self-imposed retreat to discover how to more fully operate from freedom, courage and joy. As women, unless the light of love is flowing fully in our family or in our intimate relationships, we’re not fulfilled...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinHave you ever met someone you felt completely in sync with? Entrainment is a term used to express how the human body assumes a sympathetic response to stimuli much the way scientists have discovered that two heart cells put together...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinThe show “The Biggest Loser” is very popular. In it we see men and women who are determined to make monumental changes and are willing to embrace new habits and significant personal discomfort to do so. When I recently...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinWe hear a lot of buzz these days about the importance of emotional intelligence (EI). What exactly is “emotional intelligence” and why do we need it? There are 4 main components: self-awareness, self-management, social...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinHave you ever thought you had an agreement or understanding with someone only to find you didn’t? You thought you were clear and direct in a request, and ended up disappointed. Or have you responded to a request, only to find...
Share this...FacebookTwitterLinkedinConnection is to humans what water is to fish; a key to our existence and a cornerstone for our behavior. We are social beings and from infancy we make decisions and set goals in response to our social framework. In...
